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SuperDuperWonderboy posted 10/9/2013 18:41 PM

So I upgraded to Platinum membership today, I figured that this site had helped me so much that I ought to give back a tiny bit.

Two things came out of this.

First...note the awesome new name. You know you love it.

Second--I was able to go back and re-read my posts. More importantly I was able to go back and see how far I have come in this healing process.

Re-reading some of my original posts is almost surreal. The pain reflected in them is so raw and deep. But man, re-reading YOUR posts in support and advice was amazing.

I won't name names, but most of you are still on these boards. People were there for me and JNRPA right from the start. And we didn't exactly have an easy road. I re-read some of our blow-up threads that ended up dividing SI against itself (over a stupid facebook post). But man, everyone stuck around, encouraged us, supported us, 2x4'd us. But mostly, listened to us and empathized with us.

This journey is long and hard. I am definitely not the same person I was when I came here desperately seeking someone to hear me and help me deal with my devastation. As a person, maybe I'm better, maybe I'm worse, but I am sure stronger now. That strength came from many of you.

I know that I am not always the most serious poster on here (see my name), but I do try to be sincere. And I do feel your pain and struggles. I have been there. Hell, I still struggle at times (read frequently).

Reading my past posts today, and your responses was so touching. So Thank You. Thank you. Thank you.

SisterMilkshake posted 10/9/2013 18:43 PM

This is a superduper post, SDWB.

Jrazz posted 10/9/2013 18:49 PM

Only YOU could get away with such a sassy name.

It is quite a thing to be able to go back and look at the beginning of the journey. Not for the weak, that's for sure.

gonnabe2016 posted 10/9/2013 18:51 PM

SuperDuperWonderboy

I like to go back and read my old threads. Not for what was happening with me (I was there, I remember).....but to read the responses. I can read them differently now. (AND I see that it's true -- the advice I got was typically *spot on*.)

I STILL remember those blow-up threads. Wow. It's amazing that you and JN have come as far as you have. And very nice to see. You give off a lot of *good energy* these days.

Thanks for sticking around.....

unfound posted 10/9/2013 18:51 PM

Don't encourage him Sister

It's been quite a ride, hasn't it? That strength actually has been in you all along... it sometimes just takes others to help you not just see it, but believe it's there.

SuperDuperWonderboy posted 10/9/2013 18:53 PM

To the four posters above. I read responses from all of you today on my old threads. Thank you.

And yes, re-reading the posts and advice from a more "removed" place is quite amazing. You guys were spot on. And your compassion was amazing.

LA44 posted 10/9/2013 19:42 PM

Funny SDWb! (sorry for the encouragement)

gonnabe2016 posted 10/9/2013 19:48 PM

Considering that you and I were kinda at the same spot at the same time....I highly doubt that I was very encouraging.

SuperDuperWonderboy posted 10/9/2013 19:57 PM

If you don't believe that Gonna, go back and read the Facebook blow-up threads.

sad12008 posted 10/9/2013 20:19 PM

I'm glad I caught your post, now that wonderboy has not only gone Platinum but also SuperDuper as well.

It's wonderful you found SI back when the crapstorm hit, and I'm happy you and JNRPA survived. Very cool.

gonnabe2016 posted 10/9/2013 20:29 PM

Do you remember the titles?

blakesteele posted 10/11/2013 05:31 AM

I am a platinum level too...but don't see all of my previous posts. I see a lot more then I did, but was hoping to see all of them.

Is this possible? Am I just not doing something right?

Regardless...I am pleased to support this site.

SuperDuperWonderboy posted 10/11/2013 10:09 AM

Too little too late was her post. Mine was like "she signed the waiver". I think.

SuperDuperWonderboy posted 10/11/2013 10:10 AM

Thanks sad. It really is amazing that we are getting through this. The early posts are gut wrenching

SuperDuperWonderboy posted 10/11/2013 10:12 AM

Blake. Are you going to the SImplicity site? That's where they are stored. Click the link in the red banner near the top of the page.

lordhasaplan? posted 10/11/2013 10:12 AM

Like the name change
A chance to reread is always an interesting process. To see how far we have come in our thoughts and feelings regarding this stuff.

Rebreather posted 10/11/2013 10:21 AM

I think it is a good sign you were able to read all of that old pain and come out of it with a feeling of healing, and not anger. Nice work, dorkboy.

SuperDuperWonderboy posted 10/11/2013 12:11 PM

I have this fantasy that JNRPA will right now, RIGHT NOW, email her friends back and apologize for lying to them and misleading them and own that WB has every right to divorce her and why.

Except then I fear it would give WB hope and geez, I think we should blindfold him and stuff in him a closet instead to protect him.

Said by Rebreather in May of 2012.

Dorkboy or not...you guys were good to me.

Tred posted 10/11/2013 12:15 PM

Well, thought I'd find an interesting meme going on here, but not a single GIF to be found. Nothing to see, moving along...

Dorkboy

Faithful w/Love posted 10/11/2013 12:22 PM

Love the NAME! It fits you. You have helped me in ways when it comes to a man piont of view. Thank you.
I don't think that I could reread my post as they are most likely desperate and pathic. And I don't want to relieve the pain because I am so not there yet.
Thank you for showing us that real men are out there!