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User Topic: the pain is real
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Stop  Posted: 7:53 PM, October 9th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I feel ridiculous today, waiting for almost a year after I cheated to check in on this website to see if this amount of pain I caused was real, how could I deny her my comfort and remorse for this long, giving her just enough to get by for the day, leaving her wondering if I am committed, when in fact I haven't been
I keep reading these posts about the excruciating pain that last for years, knowing in the back of my limited emotional brain that I have the power to help, what an ignorant jackass ive been

Posts: 32 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: usa
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Default  Posted: 5:11 AM, October 10th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And are you committed to R now? What's different? What do you plan to do to show her that it isn't the same old same old?

What will be different this time that is the real stuff, instead of the 'just enough' to string her along, as you've been doing?

(Not attacking or judging, real questions that you don't have to answer here---just for you to think about )

Do not just slay your demons, dissect them and find what they've been feeding on.

Posts: 46453 | Registered: Sep 2007
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Default  Posted: 9:47 AM, October 10th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What makes you committed now? The fact that your BS is most likely "done", or the fact you really realize just how screwed up you are?

See, alot of us go into damage control mode. We messed up the pretty little life we had and we just want things to "get back to normal". Never gonna happen.

What are you doing to prevent this from ever happening again? What are you doing to really change?

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

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