Ex WS was supposed to come over to see the kids tonight. Being chronically late, I thought nothing of his tardiness. Sent a text that we were in the garage. Found out the cellular network was down when the text failed to send.
Went in the house to find he had left a message on the land line. He threw his back out somehow and could not come over. He sounded like he was in a lot of pain.
Normally I would send a text because NC and all that jazz.
I had the kids call and talk to him. He told them he was sorry he couldn't come over.
Now I still felt a little guilty. Then I thought about how it was his choice to leave and the reality is that his OW lives on another continent. His parents have been banished by him to his cottage a 2 hour drive away.
Why do I feel a tiny niggle of obligation? Really I would have liked to tell him that his fiancée better book a flight quickly to come take care of him.
Why should I care?
Because I'm human I guess and I do have the empathy that he lacks.
He called later to ask me to bring over the crutches that I have in my garage. These are crutches he got when he injured his knee and never returned to the hospital.
I told him they wouldn't help his back and he was better off using a chair back as a walker.
Also, I would have to bring the kids with me to drop off the crutches. I just can't leave the house willy nilly like he can.
Honestly I am waffling between guilt feelings and anger.
Why should I feel sorry?
I know how much it hurts to have this happen. It happened to me and I had to crawl to get to the bathroom. He was at work at he time I believe.
Really. What would you do?
BS: (Me) 48
Kids: twins DD(11)
D-Day April 18, 2011
Him:out Sept. 11, 2011
He moved an ocean away June 27, 2014.
"They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder but I am growing more and more fond of his absence"