Me: BW, 30
I had the opposite problem, OW is all over the internet. I can relate to the need to see what the deal is. I obsessed over OW's networks for a few weeks because she kept posting first a bunch of whiny crap about how much she missed WH (without naming him by name, but still... what kind of psycho publicly cries over missing someone else's husband?) and how sad it was they weren't together anymore, and then mean things about me when she tried to contact him again and he told her to go away, and after I exposed her to someone else she was screwing around on.
I also obsessed because I was desperately trying to answer the question "who is this person my WH ripped us apart over?"
After a while I realized that looking at her classless attempts to play the victim, and frankly looking at her face at all, was just ruining my mood all the time, and that who she is doesn't matter, what she does every day doesn't matter, who she talks about online doesn't matter, she's a broken person who doesn't deserve a single second of my time. I haven't looked at her stuff in about 2 weeks, and my healing process is MUCH better for it, and I'm not even tempted to look, just the thought makes me mad. But I feel where you're coming from for sure. There were a few weeks there when no amount of telling myself it didn't matter would stop me from looking.
[This message edited by Thessalian at 2:07 AM, October 10th (Thursday)]
Him: WH, 36
7 years of double-digit ONS, LTA, hookers - the works.
First found out: August 20, 2013
Whole truth: January 1, 2014