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LivinginLimbo posted 10/10/2013 11:23 AM

We just went on a cruise and were seated with 4 other couples. Two of the ladies mentioned that their first husband cheated on them and they subsequently divorced.

Much as it was tempting, I didn't point to my FWH and say "guess who else is a member of the cheaters club?"

How pathetic is it that at least 3 of us had this mess in our lives?

Flatlined123 posted 10/10/2013 11:55 AM

AP told H that 60% of men cheat. I'm not sure if that was to make him feel better or to convince him it was okay.

I just hate the shit storm he dumped on me to deal with for the rest of my life.

Crushed1 posted 10/10/2013 12:00 PM

Sadly, cheating does seem to be way too common these days.

sisoon posted 10/10/2013 12:00 PM

The best number I've seen is that something like 27% of men up to the age of 60 admit to cheating in the General Social Science Survey interviews.

I don't think anybody knows how many men would admit to cheating in an anonymous questionnaire, so this 'best' number probably isn't very good.

[This message edited by sisoon at 12:01 PM, October 10th (Thursday)]

SuperDuperWonderboy posted 10/10/2013 12:09 PM

I come from a family of three brothers. We have all been cheated on by our wives. My other two brothers divorced. It's everywhere.

yoshi7268 posted 10/10/2013 13:48 PM

I have 8 brothers and sisters.
All 9 of us have been cheated on.
Some were cheaters.

My father cheated on my mother and though it wasn't proven, my mother cheated on my father.

My step father cheated on my mother.
My Grandmother cheated on my Grandfather.

I have 5 children. Out of the 4 that are now adults, all have been cheated on by their SOs and 1 cheated on his SO.

I know very few people in my life that haven't been directly involved in infidelity from one side or the other.

It all just makes me so sad.

Tripletrouble posted 10/10/2013 16:16 PM

Yep, the numbers are staggering. And those are just the ones that know. I'm such a cynic. I went to a large ladies night out gathering with a friend. While everyone talked about paint colors and designer furniture I was thinking. "who cares, your husband is cheating on you".

ETA I fully realize some of the wives were probably cheaters too

[This message edited by Tripletrouble at 4:17 PM, October 10th (Thursday)]

Bikingguy posted 10/10/2013 16:22 PM

Yuup really gives a lot of confidence in the human race.

WW spend a week with 5 high school friends, 3 were cheated on and 1 suspects. She did not have the nerve to confuss being from dark side

My co-worker, a recent JFO BS, said are we the ones living in a fantasy life because we just assume people would act better?

Bikingguy posted 10/10/2013 16:24 PM

Tripletrouble,

Isn't that one of the horrible aspects of this shit sandwich. Never being able to look at another couple and wondering who is cheating?

Will add, Dad cheated on mom, First girl friend cheated on me. My best man at my wedding cheated on his W. Idiot got caught because the neighbor heard his phone calls with OW on her baby monitor and ratted him out - good for her.

Tripletrouble posted 10/10/2013 18:56 PM

Bikingguy my family is like that too. My dad left my mom for LTA OW. Annndddd....the statistics make me doubt I will ever have a serious relationship again. I want to punch something when people tell me I'll find someone. Why the hell would I want to do that? So I can do this again? No thanks.

LivinginLimbo posted 10/10/2013 19:10 PM

I have no idea what the marital history is of the other two couples. If they are also part of this crappy club, they did the same as me and kept it quiet.

It did surprise me. We were all random couples seated together.

BeyondBreaking posted 10/10/2013 19:27 PM

That is such an unfortunate statistic, and I really HATE being part of it.

Flatlined123 posted 10/10/2013 19:57 PM

There are six of us in my family. Only my brother and I have been cheated on. He D, but I think his M was on life support way before he found out. We're still trying to stick it out.

That's a third of us who were cheated on.

My in laws have been married over 60 years and as far as anyone knows they have been faithful. The other two thirds of my siblings have never been cheated on.

My parents, I don't think so, but the more I'm realizing about my Dad, I wouldn't put it past him. I know he loved my Mom, but I see some very selfish behaviors when I think back on him.

The sad thing is that it is all over, but it doesn't have to happen. People just make poor choices to let it happen.

LeopoldB posted 10/10/2013 20:33 PM

Taking all of the cheating into consideration, I still think it makes sense to inform the other betrayed spouse, but realistically (statistically) the OBS was probably cheating too. So people should not get so caught up in all of the tangled knots about whether or not to inform about betrayal. The real question is, will anyone even care?

RavenWood posted 10/10/2013 22:19 PM

My Dad cheated on my mom. My brother in law cheats on his wife. My best friend cheated on his girlfriend. 3 couples who are friends of my stbxw cheated. And after my Coworkers found out what I was going through, 3 males and 2 female Coworkers admitted to me the had been cheated on, or did the cheating.
Most ended in divorce.
It's a damn epidemic.

Confused85 posted 10/10/2013 23:45 PM

I'm coming from a family with no affair, at least not that I know of.
People cheat and lie because it's easier to get forgiveness then permission

ok4now posted 10/11/2013 00:45 AM

Just wait folks, if you think the stats are bad now ... Just wait until the facebook, twitter and reality show junkies get to their 30's it will be a real shit storm.

I read an interesting article in regards to the rise in narcassim and entitlement due to twitter, facebook etc I think this next generation are going to blow the old stats out of the water.

Kind of scary

[This message edited by ok4now at 12:47 AM, October 11th (Friday)]

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