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Topic: Mourning for the old me?

sodamnlost
♀ 37190
Member # 37190

Posted: 3:55 PM, October 10th (Thursday), 2013

Dropped off proof WH got his divorce packet today at the courthouse. It felt so casual. Then I got in the van. Flashbacks to my wedding day. I wasn't wishing for a better past though - I wanted soooooo badly to step back in time and warn that me what would happen. Snot city while I drove home. This gets better right?

Me - BS original Dday 10-2012, separated June 2014, divorce Fall 2016

Grief, loss and pain taunt her - "you will never be the same." Like a Phoenix rising from the ashes, she rises and spreads her new wings as she brushes off the ashes an

Posts: 772 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: Out of the ashes

Pass
♂ 38122
Member # 38122

Posted: 7:38 PM, October 10th (Thursday), 2013

It takes a while, but yes: WAY WAY better!

There may be a little more snot in your near future though. ((sodamnlost))

Me: 1970
Two sons: 2000 and 2003
Cheating louse: What's her name again?

Married Aug/95
DDay Nov/12
Separated Mar/13
Finally divorced Jul/17

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous!

Posts: 3483 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ontario, Canada

nowiknow23
♀ 33226
Member # 33226

Posted: 7:56 PM, October 10th (Thursday), 2013

((((sodamnlost))))

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

Posts: 40173 | Registered: Aug 2011

phmh
♀ 34146
Member # 34146

Posted: 8:03 PM, October 10th (Thursday), 2013

(((sodamnlost)))

It does get so much better. It takes time. For me, when I was as early in as you were, I was a huge mess and certain that things would never look up. The day my D was final was one of the worst of my life, but it's only gotten better since then.

You'll find the old you -- the wonderful, fabulous you that you were before your marriage. What are things you gave up, dreams you delayed, interests you never explore? Find some of those and craft a great new life!!!

Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny

Posts: 4422 | Registered: Dec 2011

Williesmom
♀ 22870
Member # 22870

Posted: 7:59 PM, October 11th (Friday), 2013

It gets better than you could ever imagine. It just takes time.

Hang in there.

You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 9148 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA

Saadnblu
♀ 40361
Member # 40361

Posted: 9:08 PM, October 11th (Friday), 2013

((Sodamnlost)) hang in there! When things started to come apart for me in my marriage, I confided in my hairdresser, trying to explain why I was so depressed. She said that some large percentage of her clients were divorced women. I asked if they were ok. She said: they all had a very bad time at first, but they are ALL very very happy now. I try to remember that.

Me: 58, SAHM
Him: 58, LTA 2.5 years
Married 9 years, together 15
Dday: June 11 2013
DD 9 years
Separated

Posts: 70 | Registered: Aug 2013

ruinedandbroken
♀ 29250
Member # 29250

Posted: 9:06 AM, October 12th (Saturday), 2013

It gets better but it takes a long time. I too often wish I could go back in time and tell my 18 year old self to RUN!!!!!!!!!!!

“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 8&11
Married 14 yrs Together 21

Posts: 1622 | Registered: Aug 2010

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