Topic: Mourning for the old me?
Member # 37190
| Posted: 3:55 PM, October 10th (Thursday), 2013|
Dropped off proof WH got his divorce packet today at the courthouse. It felt so casual. Then I got in the van. Flashbacks to my wedding day. I wasn't wishing for a better past though - I wanted soooooo badly to step back in time and warn that me what would happen. Snot city while I drove home. This gets better right?
Me - BS original Dday 10-2012, separated June 2014, divorce Fall 2016
Grief, loss and pain taunt her - "you will never be the same." Like a Phoenix rising from the ashes, she rises and spreads her new wings as she brushes off the ashes an
Posts: 772 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: Out of the ashes
Member # 38122
| Posted: 7:38 PM, October 10th (Thursday), 2013|
It takes a while, but yes: WAY WAY better!
There may be a little more snot in your near future though. ((sodamnlost))
Two sons: 2000 and 2003
Cheating louse: What's her name again?
Finally divorced Jul/17
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous!
Posts: 3623 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ontario, Canada
Member # 33226
| Posted: 7:56 PM, October 10th (Thursday), 2013|
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
Posts: 40249 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 34146
| Posted: 8:03 PM, October 10th (Thursday), 2013|
It does get so much better. It takes time. For me, when I was as early in as you were, I was a huge mess and certain that things would never look up. The day my D was final was one of the worst of my life, but it's only gotten better since then.
You'll find the old you -- the wonderful, fabulous you that you were before your marriage. What are things you gave up, dreams you delayed, interests you never explore? Find some of those and craft a great new life!!!
Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!
Married: 11 years, no kids
Character is destiny
Posts: 4472 | Registered: Dec 2011
Member # 22870
| Posted: 7:59 PM, October 11th (Friday), 2013|
It gets better than you could ever imagine. It just takes time.
Hang in there.
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
Posts: 9169 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
Member # 40361
| Posted: 9:08 PM, October 11th (Friday), 2013|
((Sodamnlost)) hang in there! When things started to come apart for me in my marriage, I confided in my hairdresser, trying to explain why I was so depressed. She said that some large percentage of her clients were divorced women. I asked if they were ok. She said: they all had a very bad time at first, but they are ALL very very happy now. I try to remember that.
Me: 58, SAHM
Him: 58, LTA 2.5 years
Married 9 years, together 15
Dday: June 11 2013
DD 9 years
Posts: 70 | Registered: Aug 2013
Member # 29250
| Posted: 9:06 AM, October 12th (Saturday), 2013|
It gets better but it takes a long time. I too often wish I could go back in time and tell my 18 year old self to RUN!!!!!!!!!!!
“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 8&11
Married 14 yrs Together 21
Posts: 1622 | Registered: Aug 2010
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