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Topic: Overreacting?
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Crushed66
♀ 40005
Member # 40005 |  Posted: 9:51 PM, October 10th (Thursday), 2013 |     |
Okay FWH said how was I ever going to trust him unless I give him opportunities (he is basically on house arrest) to gain my trust back. So he had a meeting after work (usually not allowed to go) and wanted to go meet some of his guy friends to watch a game. I asked when he would be home and he said between 9 and 9:30. I said okay...and he showed up at 9:45 stinking drunk. I am sooo mad! No, I don't think he was cheating on me, but why can't he keep a simple promise!!!
BW-Me 34 yrs old
FWH - Him 36 yrs old
2 kids - 1 and 5 years old
Married for 7 years, together for 8 1/2
Posts: 6 | Registered: Jul 2013 |
SpiderGrl
♀ 40157
Member # 40157 | | Posted: 9:54 PM, October 10th (Thursday), 2013 | |
Nope. No overreaction there if you gave him your boundaries and he crossed them.
Me 36- BW
Him 37- WH 6 month EA pushing PA.
DDAY- 7/2/13
Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will. -Gandhi
Pls forgive weird sentences and spelling mistakes, I post from my phone and autocorrect hates me.
Posts: 101 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: US |
emotionalgirl
♀ 40184
Member # 40184 | | Posted: 10:14 PM, October 10th (Thursday), 2013 | |
Crushed...you are not over reacting! I just posted on a thread on general about our WH being Mr. Unreliable. I am sorry to hear it sounds like that is who you are married to as well. Stick to your guns and re-state your boundaries. Write them out and have him sign them if you need to. This SI what I did! He has no " deniability" if he screws up because he signed that he knew and understood my boundaries! Good luck.
1st D day: Saturday July 20,2013
2nd D day....when the s**t really hit the fan and the truth came out.Saturday August 3,2013
3rd D day: Friday August 16, 2013...NC sent Friday Aug 30 4th D day NOV 11
Me: BS
Him: WH
Married 25 years....finally in R
Posts: 377 | Registered: Aug 2013 |
Lonelygirl10
♀ 39850
Member # 39850 | | Posted: 10:18 PM, October 10th (Thursday), 2013 | |
Not overreacting.
Something similar happened with me in the past. My wBF and I both went out separately with friends for a night, and we agreed to meet at my place at 11 PM to stay the night together. I got home at 11 PM, and he hadn't left his friends' house yet (an hour drive). I was pissed.
Everything that happens now matters. He asked for a chance to prove himself to you. He failed that opportunity. He should have showed up earlier than what he told you. I don't think you're overreacting.
Posts: 1758 | Registered: Jul 2013 |
Morhurt
♀ 40166
Member # 40166 | | Posted: 10:38 PM, October 10th (Thursday), 2013 | |
I would be livid, particularly about the drunk part. I get upset when H is a few minutes later home from work than I expect. Trust is a gift but it has to be earned.
I'm sorry. :(
Me: BS
Him: FWS
M: 15 years
4 lovely daughters
Working to rebuild.
Posts: 1127 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Canada |
RidingHealingRd
♀ 33867
Member # 33867 | | Posted: 10:55 PM, October 10th (Thursday), 2013 | |
When he sobers up be sure to tell him:
That is NO way to build trust.
ME: 57 BS
HIM: 64 WH
Married: 32 years
D'Day: 10/29/10
in R 6 years and it's working but he is putting 200% into it (as he should) to make it right again.
The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.
Posts: 2439 | Registered: Nov 2011 |
alphakitte
♀ 33438
Member # 33438 | | Posted: 7:36 AM, October 11th (Friday), 2013 | |
Why can't he honor a promise? Because it isn't a priority, for him.
------ Some people are emotional tadpoles. Even if they mature they are just a warty toad. Catt
Posts: 564 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: 3 klicks north of Ambiguous |
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