SurvivingInfidelity.com Forum Archives

Return to Forum List

Overreacting?

You are not logged in. Login here or register.

Crushed66 posted 10/10/2013 21:51 PM

Okay FWH said how was I ever going to trust him unless I give him opportunities (he is basically on house arrest) to gain my trust back. So he had a meeting after work (usually not allowed to go) and wanted to go meet some of his guy friends to watch a game. I asked when he would be home and he said between 9 and 9:30. I said okay...and he showed up at 9:45 stinking drunk. I am sooo mad! No, I don't think he was cheating on me, but why can't he keep a simple promise!!!

SpiderGrl posted 10/10/2013 21:54 PM

Nope. No overreaction there if you gave him your boundaries and he crossed them.

emotionalgirl posted 10/10/2013 22:14 PM

Crushed...you are not over reacting! I just posted on a thread on general about our WH being Mr. Unreliable. I am sorry to hear it sounds like that is who you are married to as well. Stick to your guns and re-state your boundaries. Write them out and have him sign them if you need to. This SI what I did! He has no " deniability" if he screws up because he signed that he knew and understood my boundaries! Good luck.

Lonelygirl10 posted 10/10/2013 22:18 PM

Not overreacting.

Something similar happened with me in the past. My wBF and I both went out separately with friends for a night, and we agreed to meet at my place at 11 PM to stay the night together. I got home at 11 PM, and he hadn't left his friends' house yet (an hour drive). I was pissed.

Everything that happens now matters. He asked for a chance to prove himself to you. He failed that opportunity. He should have showed up earlier than what he told you. I don't think you're overreacting.

Morhurt posted 10/10/2013 22:38 PM

I would be livid, particularly about the drunk part. I get upset when H is a few minutes later home from work than I expect. Trust is a gift but it has to be earned.
I'm sorry. :(

RidingHealingRd posted 10/10/2013 22:55 PM

When he sobers up be sure to tell him:

That is NO way to build trust.

alphakitte posted 10/11/2013 07:36 AM

Why can't he honor a promise? Because it isn't a priority, for him.

Return to Forum List

© 2002-2018 SurvivingInfidelity.com ®. All Rights Reserved.     Privacy Policy