Do you trust your WGF? What disclosure and transparency has she provided you?
If you are thinking "I hope I can get it up and keep it up so she won't cheat on me again" then small wonder you're having issues. If you performing sexually is what you hope will keep her, she might already be lost IMHO.
Have you tried IC?
And what is SHE doing to become a safe and authentic wayward? Non-erections aside, what does the rest of your reconciliation look like?
This, to me, seems like the non-erections are the symptom, not the root problem.
Perhaps I'm off the mark. Sorry for your struggles. Good luck.
[This message edited by JustDesserts at 6:29 AM, October 11th (Friday)]
I can usually find some crazy extreme porn to get me through it,
I don't advise this. Let yourself stay horny. This will help you overcome the ED.
So sorry you are going through this.
Shrink says it's a combination of the AD meds and what he calls mental castration.
I am told things will get better as I progress through IC and MC.
Life ain't a lot of fun right now.
Her 'A' 1994(?) through 1998
D-Day 7/4/2013 Yes, I didn't find out for almost 15 years... but the pain is just as bad as if she were with him last week.
Eventually the thoughts will subside and/or they will loose the stabbing pain you get when you think of them.
When this happened to me, I would get upset but fWW would hold me and try to make it better.
Don't worry about it. It's normal.
Please feel free to ask your question in the BS questions for WS thread in I Can Relate. This thread is not the place for that type of question.
The people you do your life with shape the life you live