My WH wants to visit his divorced parents (each with new partners) who live in a town quite a distance from us.
Before the affair he was not close either of them and rarely wanted to visit. They were concerned for HIM when the affair came out and were ready to support him whatever he chose to do. They are indulgent and selfish and had several affairs of their own.
My husband has had more telephone contact with them since his A ended as he has no friends to turn to in the aftermath of the affair.
He wants to visit them.
I am anxious about this because I feel they never really liked me and probably feel my WH was justified in having the A. I see them as enemies of our marriage now as they would have welcomed AP.
I have tried talking to WH about this, the only reason he is visiting is because he should, its been a while, I tried to tell him I was worried, that they are happy and smug after they had their affairs and that they don't see what has happened as a big deal. They are forgiving and thats something I cant be yet (maybe never will be).
I don't want to be controlling of what my WH chooses to do but feel strongly that his folks are weak people who have no morals and certainly didnt teach their son to consider others. We are trying to R but I know my WH is unhappy, his parents may well say he made the wrong choice and he should have gone off with the AP.
Not sure what to do. How do I handle this?