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User Topic: If only I had read this first. Brilliant article!!
bitterbetrayal
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Default  Posted: 6:46 AM, October 11th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If only I had read this brilliant article at the beginning. I had the worst MC possible who did and said all the things first mentioned in this article. I am posting this here because I was requested to do so after posting it in general. Please please read it. http://www.davidclarkeseminars.com/apps/articles/?columnid=508&articleid=3813 It's relevant even if you are not a church goer.

[This message edited by bitterbetrayal at 6:48 AM, October 11th (Friday)]


ME.BS 55
Him.WS 55 and a priest!
D-DAY 12/07/09
D-DAY-2 14/08/09
MARRIED 25 YEARS ON 25/08/09
BEEN TOGETHER 28 YEARS
TWO CHILDREN 20 and 22.

Posts: 160 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: UK
Take2
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Default  Posted: 3:38 PM, October 11th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bumping - because it is going to help some poor soul out there, who finds themselves with a bad MC...


"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

Posts: 4171 | Registered: May 2009 | From: New England
Exit Wounds
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Default  Posted: 3:46 PM, October 11th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

[This message edited by Exit Wounds at 4:01 PM, October 11th (Friday)]


Posts: 2486 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: With my dad...and my dog...
putonahappyface
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Default  Posted: 8:33 AM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Awesome! Wish every counselor was trained to follow this.


BS (me) - 50; SAWH- 51 (hurtherbadly)
Married 27 yrs
2 DS - 21&17
Dday 6/4/2010. 2 EA/PA
11/15/12 update: discovered porn addiction
4 years out: M is strong; FWH is a new man :)


Posts: 721 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Bluegrass
sad12008
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Default  Posted: 9:29 AM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree; it is REALLY great that it is coming from someone who can maybe bend the ear of the pastor-oriented people. I don't say that derisively; rather, I am relieved.

You're right; it has relevance to all and though he references the Bible and frames the message within a Christian context, it's not in a proselytizing or distracting manner.

I hope this helps some people! Finding a good MC or IC is as hard as finding a good hairdresser.


You can't fill a cup with no bottom.

Posts: 3904 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: a new start together
maddmurph
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Default  Posted: 12:30 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We go to our first session on Friday. If it starts out the wrong way, I will know. Glad you posted it. Thanks.


Me - BS, 33
Her - WW, 33
DS 7, DD 3

Posts: 129 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: OH
bitterbetrayal
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Default  Posted: 1:01 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so glad this is helping you all.I hope others will read it too.


ME.BS 55
Him.WS 55 and a priest!
D-DAY 12/07/09
D-DAY-2 14/08/09
MARRIED 25 YEARS ON 25/08/09
BEEN TOGETHER 28 YEARS
TWO CHILDREN 20 and 22.

Posts: 160 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: UK
Mr. Kite
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Default  Posted: 2:05 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for taking the time to post this article.

Posts: 900 | Registered: Jun 2010 | From: Mid-Atlantic
katiej
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Default  Posted: 8:11 AM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just bumping this because it is an EXCELLENT article and one I wish I had found a long, long time ago. Our marriage counselor was just that - only discussed our marriage and let the affairs slide by because, of course, it was the issues in our marriage that made him do it.


First d-day Oct. '06. 3 more after that.
He is working hard. We are R.

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