Society says all men view porn...no big deal.
I am hear to tell you it is a big deal.
I could write a book on how societal views play into the D rate, adultery, devaluing of people, etc...
At what age to do we think we are immune from the influences of such articles? 18, 21, 42, 60? They do nothing but take the edge off of dreadful, selfish, hurtful behavior...eventually making it no more wrong then spitting gum on a sidewalk.
I kinda think my wifes AP is proud that he laid my wife...he certainly has no remorse over his actions and is reportedly on to another woman. Oh yeah, he is still married with 5 kids. I suspect he is skilled at his craft, but he might pick up some pointers from this article. His wife would have a very different reaction to this article...but that wouldn't matter to him.
No mystery as to the state of society, is there?
But we are lucky....our eyes have been opened. I might have looked at that article pre-A and had no real reaction...thus condoning it. Now my reaction is like yours. I, too, would most likely read it start to finish. Not as the erotic excitement it might be for others (the point of it being included in the magazine...sex sells)
, but in a fact-finding way....see how the enemy conducts its warfare!
God help us all.
[This message edited by blakesteele at 7:18 AM, October 11th (Friday)]
My TV viewing, movie, and reading habits have all changed because of it.
I am also 'seeing' things that I would never have noticed before...things like the waitress that flirts to get a better tip. Now I am critical of that sort of thing whereas before, I would have laughed and even enjoyed her flirting.
Her 'A' 1994(?) through 1998
D-Day 7/4/2013 Yes, I didn't find out for almost 15 years... but the pain is just as bad as if she were with him last week.
Pre-A blakesteele would never thought his wife could be so toxic...,,not just to me, but our kids, extended family, and a "strangers" family.
But....the fact we all see this light in a different light now proves that change happens.
I am grateful I am changing, grateful my wife is changing. Change is painful....that's why we are slow to do it. "Good" is not always "fun".
Keep the faith,
They don't show the back story..,the one where the man actively chooses to have 5 kids with the "wrong woman" he married. Doesn't show the other many life altering decisions they already made with their "non-soulmate", or the hurt and sense of loss the kids of the marriage they are "escaping from" experience.
funny though about society's views and movies etc and now how things are different...
in my case I used to love the book Great Gatsby, and wanted to see the new movie but my H said he wouldn't think it right to watch it now since its about affairs and it makes him sick now...
everything is different now.
Obviously they have no other agenda then to sell magazines. Treat these like you do people who are not marriage-friendly....stay away!
Which is what I told the man who recommended the book. Probably disappointed him, as I'm betting he was hoping I'd sleep with him because HGB told me to.
So it's no surprise that Cosmo is still promoting adultery, thirty-something years later.
Too many trashy mags out there banking on shock value and bs to keep its buying populace entertained and oblivious. They are used as a means to spread the stupidity disease that is taking over the world.
I wanted to reach through the magazine, knock him on the head and say, "No...CHEATING ruins marriages. YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE DONE IT IN THE FIRST PLACE!"
I don't even read those confessions and cheating articles anymore. I still flip through the magazine every now and then, but definitely stay away from articles like that.
At least the current man "only" cyber-cheated.
"Love means never having to say you're sorry."