How do you like this one?
As our house gets closer to being put on the market, XPervert (because he's someone else's now) is moving more stuff out. This is finally getting to be okay with me because I don't have to clean any of it or worry it may get broken).
And I'm starting to pack up my stuff and this way I don't care what he does in the place. I'm finally ready to go, though still have bouts of tears. I'm working at not caring anymore and letting the dream die for myself. It's easier that way somehow.
It's not that I'm shocked at this latest statement from X, but am more beginning to enjoy the circus that he's made his life. The things he tells himself and OW are simply unreal and I have to remind myself that he is a "well person" without mental problems...that being said, here is the latest from the vault:
"Well, I haven't been able to do more house things because I've been taking care of the baby and DD." (ETA that he's actually with DD all of two partial days in a whole month anyway). He's been "going to" do these things for over a year's time and the baby has been on the planet for two entire weeks.
It's his changing his project and plans for his time and not planning it that the problem is, always has been, shows up at his job and he gets dinged for it on reviews. There too, blames it on the rain, the monkey in the flowerpot that distracted him, (sarcasm coming out) a blond walking by...anyone's fault but his.
He also continues to tell me that he doesn't discuss me with OW and tribe, yet she had acres of info., my phone number, my pictures and so on...) and access to me electronically last year. His new anxt and anger is that I don't believe him and don't live in lala land with him as she does.
She went into his belongings to get my contact information and I wouldn't dream of such things, yet he believes this is a "better" person than me. I'm not having a meltdown or anything, just writing more of his amazing statements and beliefs that are so different than he used to be. In previous times, he would say that this type of person was awful.
It really forces the realizations to hit home when he can blame a newborn baby or young girl for his own issues and promises he doesn't keep.
[This message edited by Ashland13 at 7:18 AM, October 11th (Friday)]
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