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heartbrokeninaz (original poster member #40779) posted at 2:10 PM on Friday, October 11th, 2013
I don't get it. My WH and I were having a conversation about the OP. I told him that I do blame her because she knew we are married and have a small child together. He said that "it is not her fault"? What? She spread her nasty legs to have sex with him in my hot tub. I was so pissed at him! I asked him what he meant by that. He said that "it was 100% his fault not hers", and that he can be "very persuasive". Am I the only one that thinks this is bogus? Or is he just maning up and taking responsibility? I am so confused and don't know how to take this. I also asked him what he would do if I ever see her again and kick her ass in front of him and anyone we might mutually know. He said he "would laugh and cheer me on". Am I just having a trigger issue? By the way he still doesn't know what caused him to have the ONS, he only knows that he felt unwanted and unloved. He thought we would be divorced in less then 2 months.
BW 51(me)WH 51DDay 1 07/31/13 ONS with whorenado DDay 2 05/09/14 texts to another woman (not returned)Dday 3 06 15/18 texting to meetup with a mutual friend not reciprocated. I live a real life fairy tale.
MovingUpward ( member #14866) posted at 2:17 PM on Friday, October 11th, 2013
I can see where confusion could think that he might be protecting the OP. However, depending on his tone he could be accepting 100% of the blame. An affair takes two, so he could have prevented it regardless of OP actions. If you are wanting to place the blame on the OP because it make it easier to accept your WH back then you might be blameshifting and thus may not heal through this properly.
seenow ( member #40720) posted at 2:42 PM on Friday, October 11th, 2013
The OP in my situation is a horrible stinking piece of poo. It thrived on the challenge of married men. My WH was her third go at another family. Her previous one was a success because she got the husband to leave his wife and kids for her. Evil sociopath with no guilt or regret just a magical vajayjay.
That being said, my WH involved himself with it. My WH moved his energy and effort from me to it. Those decisions were his. His decisions hurt me. He is 100% responsible for his actions.
Doesn't mean I wouldn't want to kick her ass too (if I ever met her 
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whiteflower99 ( member #13937) posted at 2:54 PM on Friday, October 11th, 2013
Ummmm ok one could look at this two ways.
On the one hand he is remorseful and owning up to HIS decision and HIS actions.
On the other hand there is the "I can be very persuasive" comment. This would piss me off. Its like they thinks their penis is so wonderful and magical that they ejaculate unicorns and rare spotted dragons.
Sorry but no, they BOTH knew what they were doing and BOTH are responsible. An old post (I think from 2007) stated something like unless he tripped and fell on top of her while both were naked... well we get the point so to speak.
What are you pretending not to know?
me FBS
him idiotic sex addicted, hormone addled, porn watching, post pubescent male with a walking hard on for anything without a penis
4 kids 15 13 12 8
Earned my *F* the hard way.
heartbrokeninaz (original poster member #40779) posted at 4:43 PM on Friday, October 11th, 2013
Since I personally know her I can say she has the mentality of a 12 year old. She also has the iq of a grape. She tried years before to come on to him. I think he knew she would be easy pickings. I still blame him 100% but it takes 2 to tango. I just can't decipher if he's protecting her or just assuming responsibility. His actions say the later but I guess I will never know for sure. Any comments from people who have had an A?
BW 51(me)WH 51DDay 1 07/31/13 ONS with whorenado DDay 2 05/09/14 texts to another woman (not returned)Dday 3 06 15/18 texting to meetup with a mutual friend not reciprocated. I live a real life fairy tale.
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