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User Topic: ow still carries a torch
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Default  Posted: 10:33 AM, October 11th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

hmmm.. I decided to check out facebook. thru that, I have learned that ow is lonely, job stinks, and has gained about 75 lbs since wh left her.

ow is not dating anyone now, atleast according to fb (she puts posts about how she needs to find someone, got a cute brother for me, that sorta thing) She also has no kids. BUT, she belongs to parent groups (or atleast likes a lot of their photos, leading me to think she belongs to them). She comments on the funny memes about how kids are always bugging you in the bathroom, hanging on you, with "LOL, that's so true!"

The only kids she has ever had were mine at her house during visitation with their dad!!

She also has all of these memes with "you have to love people from afar, and when they get their stuff together they will come back to you"

[This message edited by Gottagetthrough at 10:36 AM, October 11th (Friday)]

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Default  Posted: 11:08 AM, October 11th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

sick. she needs to move on.

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Default  Posted: 11:44 AM, October 11th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I still have problems with the OW. She likes to call us around 11:30pm or midnight and then just listen to us breathe. I tried blocking her number, but it's a cell phone and not our service so I can't. We are planning on moving soon so we aren't going to bother changing our phone number. I don't have a clue why she won't give up. My WS is not interested in her - never really was but she's convinced herself that all the lies he told her are true. Don't blame her in a way because he is a very convincing liar. But shit - after 10 months????? And she's got 3 kids and has a new boyfriend - WTF, why can't she just give up?

[This message edited by devasted30 at 11:45 AM, October 11th (Friday)]

And remember Murphy is right. Nothing is so bad that it can't get worse!!!

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Default  Posted: 3:10 PM, October 11th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have found that the only way I can work out if WH and ow have broken nc is to regularly check out all the many places she blogs and posts. Unfortunately it is very clear that she is totally obsessed with him and has no intentions of moving on. She enjoys sending me abusive messages and I'm absolutely sick of the woman

Dday1 - 2013 admits EA
Dday2 - Dday5 (end 2013) breaks NC 4 times admits PA
Dday6 - November 2014 breaks NC
Dday7 - 2014 EA with COW
Dday8 - 4/2016 discover 2yr EA from 2009-2011
Dday9 - 8/2016 discover cheating from 18 years ago

Posts: 70 | Registered: Sep 2013
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Default  Posted: 4:00 PM, October 11th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The plague in our lives called here last night at 11 pm, seriously considering changing our phone number and even having it unlisted, and giving it out to very few people, some family members have OW on FB (WH's brother, his wife and wh's cousin) so even they wont have access to our number if we change it, they just cant be trusted

I really hope OW moves on ASAP, but got a bad feeling that wont be happening for a while, documenting everything though just in case we need to seek legal action against her!!!

Me-BS (44)
Him-WS (47)
DDay 1/1/2012, common law for 22 1/2 years when he began A in September 2011
Status: moving on without him

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Default  Posted: 4:46 PM, October 11th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can count myself lucky that the cumdumpster pretty much leaves us alone. She does like to show up at places that she knows we will be at. But that is pretty much it. FWH has said before when she has shown up where we are that he is surprised she hasn't slashed his tires. But honestly, she is scared of me. Plus, when we renewed our vows I sent her an announcement of our vow renewal with a letter explaining to her dumb ass that we just wanted her to know that we were together and he wants nothing to do with her.

I can't imagine having to deal with her all the time, running into her once in a while is bad enough. However, devasated30, if she was calling our house at 11:30 12:00 at night she wouldn't be listening to us breath she would hear us making love... cause I would lay that phone down on the bed beside us and proceed to rock his world.

Married 8yrs
Together 11 1/2
Me~ 3 kids, 21,17,14
Him~no kids
A with a mutual "friend" for 2+yrs
He confessed 9/9/12
A was over 2/12
7/13~ Happier than we have been in yrs!

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Default  Posted: 4:51 PM, October 11th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When I broke up with DD's dad, I ended up getting a restraining order on OW protecting me and DD from her. It basically forced my ex into a position where he could still choose to date OW, but the relationship wouldn't progess anywhere because if DD was over for visitation, OW couldn't be within 500 feet.

OW actually thought he was going to just stop seeing DD so he could date her! She was ALL upset that he chose his daughter instead of her.

Around the same time, I told her boyfriend about what she and my ex had been doing, so he dumped her and kicked her out. She gained a bunch of weight and lived in her car for a while.

Every once in a while, my ex will tell me that she pokes at him on facebook and tries to get back into touch. He is completely done with her, and it sad that after 4 YEARS she is STILL resurfacing every now and again and fishing for him. If I didn't want to watch her be tortured to death so badly, I might actually feel a ping of pity for her about how pathetic she is.

I have been cheated on by 3 different men, and I have more DDays than anyone ever should. I am here, just trying to pickup the pieces.

"What did you expect? I am a scorpion."

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Default  Posted: 5:31 PM, October 11th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm only two months out but sounds like my WH's on Google Plus. For awhile she knew I was reading her page and would put up crap about how much she was missing someone and blah, blah, blah. I changed my name on Google and she couldn't find me or see anything else I posted and oddly, when she wasn't getting attention, she stopped. I have her blocked on FB and as I learn more about her, I realize I don't really give a rats butt what she's whining about. She's really a sad person. I hope she isn't always, but for now, she really is.

BS - Me 36
WS - Him 35 (almost 36)
Child: son, 6; just learned one on way
DDAY - July 24, 2013 (thousands spent on ex girlfriend)
DDAY2 -Aug. 3, 2013 (proof he slept with her)
R is slow going after TT for 1 month

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