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User Topic: Not meant for my ears..but still
bewildered22
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Default  Posted: 1:48 PM, October 11th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This past weekend I had ..again..no porn conversation with WS. I know he surfs incognito on cell so only way to monitor is VAR. He is not aware how I know..just that I know. Listening, I overheard a conversation he had with male family member. They were talking relationship stuff and advised him to spend alone time together, read books etc. (which he does't do like he should) then he mentioned how his last "girlfriend - wtf" asked him since his marriage was bad was he interested in a friend with benefits and he said yeah he was all over that and snickered. Now I know he is a big BSer and talks out of his ass to other people. Hell, I bet that it didn't even play out like that cuz he essentially fabricates so much crap.But...to laugh and make light of something that has hurt me so much is just like a stab in the back. He is going on guys camping trip for the weekend with his family - I am anxious about him being gone and wondering what else he will say but at the same time don't really want to deal with him. So pissed, hurt, sick and tired of it all!! I don't like who I have become and feeling like I have no self-respect. Thanks for the vent!!

Posts: 19 | Registered: Aug 2012
Lostinthismess
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Default  Posted: 1:57 PM, October 11th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sounds to me if he fully 'got it' there is no way he could make jokes like that. A 'bs-er' sounds like a nice way of saying a liar. I'm sorry you were hurt again by hearing him say that. I would not be happy either


'You just keep living, until you are alive again'
'I don't want perfect, I want honest'

Posts: 333 | Registered: May 2013
heartache101
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Default  Posted: 2:12 PM, October 11th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow! I would not want to be with
Someone that didnt reflect to others a good positive moral character. Just sayin. He is showing you who he is by doing the porn and his convo with others.


There are degrees to which you let people back into your life and degrees to which you let them back into your heart-which, of course, are not the same thing

Posts: 3198 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Indiana
OldCow18
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Default  Posted: 2:17 PM, October 11th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He sounds like he's 15 years old. That comment would absolutely freak me out, I'm sorry he's being such an ass.


Me, BW forty something, DD & DS,
Married to WH (49) 11 years, together 16
D-Day 6.8.13

Posts: 620 | Registered: Jun 2013
bewildered22
♀ 36487
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Default  Posted: 4:59 PM, October 11th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OldCow18 - you are right he is very immature when it comes to conversations with "guys" . And yes, Lostinthismess he is a liar..aren't they all..but he does it way too often about crap. Shortly after Dday I was constantly ease dropping/VDAing any conversation I could ..just trying to get a clue as to who this person I am married to is. Year plus out and haven't really progressed/grown. I need to grow a pair and address this shit full on..but I know I am not ready ( scared) to draw that line.

Posts: 19 | Registered: Aug 2012
heartache101
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Default  Posted: 6:03 PM, October 11th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bewildered
When you are ready you will know.
Until then love yourself and make it possible for you to leave when you are ready. ok..


There are degrees to which you let people back into your life and degrees to which you let them back into your heart-which, of course, are not the same thing

Posts: 3198 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Indiana
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