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cuppacoffee posted 10/11/2013 19:21 PM

Okay so we've been trying to do the deed. I"m all hormonal ( 16/17 weeks pregnant) and ready to go. The husband has been having issues.

He decided to tell me that he hasn't finished the past few times we've had sex. Of course I know this because I have been with him for 14 years and well I know when he's finishing and such.

He told me it was because even though it feels great that he starts thinking about how he hurt me with the A. Then he thinks about the baby and how last time after I had the baby is when he was in his A and he was a horrible husband and dad.

Does this seem reasonable or like a bunch of crap?

ShatteredLove00 posted 10/11/2013 19:26 PM

I guess I might be biased, but it seems reasonable to me. Actually, it bothers me A LOT that less than 2 months after my husband cheated he is super interested in sex. Me, whenever he is even showing some interest, all I can think about are mind movies of him and the OW. I start crying, much less want to do anything with him.

Obviously you guys are a lot further out than we are, but I can definitely see his reasoning. Not surprised being pregnant is a bit of a trigger for either of you...I'm pretty sure it will be for me.

doubleboggy posted 10/11/2013 19:36 PM

From a menz point of view, seems totally reasonable. When you get stuff stuck in your brain, its hard to finish. Still feels good, but if my mind is not playing along, it is not going to happen. Then, it starts to snowball on itself, so more crap in my head and more problems finishing. It sucks. You can help him though. Help him relax, help him clear his mind. Trust me, it is a bigger deal to him than it is to you.

OTOH,it could be a bunch of crap.

cuppacoffee posted 10/11/2013 19:38 PM

He's on a ton of meds too. I probably should have said that.

They just took away the one that takes the edge off the one to make the lovin' happen.

The weird thing is during the day it's hands all over me but once it gets to lovin' time he's not all there.


moveon? posted 10/11/2013 19:39 PM

Sounds can be very mental for men, believe it or not. And once they have trouble finishing once or twice, then it becomes even MORE mental...kind of like an athlete who's in a slump. Add pregnancy on top of that, and yes, sounds reasonable.

HardenMyHeart posted 10/11/2013 23:42 PM

Sounds reasonable to me. Guilt and remorse can really play a number in your head. If your mind is struggling to focus on the task at hand, then finishing can be tough.

Marathonwaseasy posted 10/12/2013 00:15 AM

Fwh has issues finishing too
Annoys me as clearly not a problem with whore
But not a reflection on us really. None of this shit is.

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