I just saw a post re: telling parents.
Here is what my IC said to me when I ran this by her.
1. What is the worst thing that can happen?
Me: The worst? Well...my Dad would jump up, grab him by the collar and want to hit him
2. What is the second worst thing that can happen?
Me: That they do not want him in their house again.
3. How have they handled past crisis?
Me: With grace and forgiveness. My dad is exceptionally calm in the eye of the storm. My mom is talkative but thoughtful with her words.
We told my parents and they responded as per #3.
I thought those were good questions my IC asked me. #3, helped me see that I was thinking emotionally and not based on past experience.
It's up to you who you tell and why. If your intent is to show his mom that her son, WS, is not Mr. Wonderful then I think that is the wrong reason to tell someone.
If you are looking for support and relief, then I think telling them is best. Shining the light takes the power of the secret away.