Thanks for your responses. My post was meant to be lighthearted. See the laughing "smileys" ??>>>
I don't have any issues with you "nexting" him; he's obviously not what you're looking for. I just think you are being overly broad by painting him as some kind of loser or player because he doesn't want to marry.
Thanks for your input but I never stated he was a loser. But a player, yes indeedy! He's mentioned the clubs he frequents and has invited me. I told him many people only go to clubs to hook up. He replied they go for "two" reasons - alcohol and sex...and while smiling, quickly told me he doesn't drink. Not too subtle huh?
During another conversation while just getting to know him, another woman walked by and said that he was a "muy gaupo Americano" Of course, I know very little espanol, BUT I ain't deaf or blind! It was obvious he "knew" her because he proceeded to tell her about some dance that weekend. When he attempted to translate in English what was said, I, very ladylike, smiled and did the honorable thing and walked away!
I, too, was hurt. Heck, I was married for 21 years when D-day torn my life apart. And heck if I'm going to let some player (that's what he is) waltz in my life and screw me over.
Like I said, he made my job easier. I wish more people were more upfront regarding their intentions.
And because of my faith/beliefs, I still consider marriage to be a commitment. Yes, I need that piece of paper. That's just me. And this is coming from someone who was just until a year ago saying marriage was a joke.