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User Topic: OW profound Facebook post....trigger!
surviving1963
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Member # 40393
Default  Posted: 1:36 PM, October 13th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Why is so hard to NOT look at OW Facebook page? After having a few good days I took a look at her page. She is a "psychic". My WH became immediately intoxicated with her when they met. The feeling was mutual between them. She told me she couldn't explain the feeling when she first met him- it was like "I finally found you!". She said she has never felt such a deep connection with anyone. I reminded her at the time that she was speaking to his wife. They both refused to stop contact. She told me she lives in the "moment". Others (including many of WH family and friends) perceive her as a great spiritual guide. I saw the "loving" texts between her and my WH and they both told me they were in love. Today she posts this on Facebook:

"Make good choices based on reality not on feelings in a moment. Take your time with things...you have to live with each decision. Share this with family and friends to remind them of the same!"

After my good days I feel like I am back to square one. Literally feel sick. Apparently her choice to have an A with my husband and break up my 32 year marriage was a good one. Too bad for me and my 7 kids. She and my WH are just acknowledging their universe and their true authentic selves. I only hope someday they can feel the pain that their choices caused me and my kids.

Immediately her followers, again- many of whom I know, start to post how wonderful she is, how great her advice is etc, etc, etc.

My husband does not want a divorce. He just wants us both. I never cease to be amazed!


Me: 50
WH: 50 pro cake-eater, NPD, SA
Married 33 years
D-Days 3-4-12, 8-19-12 (EA, probably PA)porn,ashleymadison, etc, etc
4 sons, 3 daughters
8 grandkids
Divorcing - finally

Posts: 120 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Utah
SerJR
♂ 14993
Member # 14993
Default  Posted: 1:43 PM, October 13th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That pig likes her lipstick.

If you want to avoid triggering yourself, you may want to start cutting yourself off from her facebook.

And as for your husband... if you're not okay with sharing him, then you need to make it very clear to him that you will not accept that in your marriage and you must be willing to back it up.
180. 180. 180.


Me: BH - Happily remarried.
Hope is never lost. It exists within you - it is real. It is not a force in and of itself - it is something that you create with every thought, action, and choice you make. It is a gift that you create for yourself.

Posts: 17109 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Further North than South
sullymeishadomi
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Default  Posted: 1:54 PM, October 13th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I read her quote 3 times. Im getting the impression her universe isnt full of unicorns shitting rainbows. It sounds like she is regretful and warning people to think bf they act

Eta: and what SerJr said.

[This message edited by sullymeishadomi at 1:55 PM, October 13th (Sunday)]


People tell you exactly who they are...why expect them to be what they are not ....will be divorcing the selfish creep.

Posts: 8471 | Registered: Sep 2007
surviving1963
♀ 40393
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Default  Posted: 2:08 PM, October 13th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks guys. I WILL not share my husband with his girlfriend. Filed for divorce. She has no regrets. Is very arrogant and confident. She is everywhere! Proclaiming her greatness! I need to learn to stay off Facebook. What a journey this has been.


Me: 50
WH: 50 pro cake-eater, NPD, SA
Married 33 years
D-Days 3-4-12, 8-19-12 (EA, probably PA)porn,ashleymadison, etc, etc
4 sons, 3 daughters
8 grandkids
Divorcing - finally

Posts: 120 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Utah
Truly
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Default  Posted: 2:26 PM, October 13th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I hate Fb. And I don't like the sound of that woman AT ALL.
I call bullshit! Profound, pah! That's just what everyone is supposed to do and, incidentally, not hurt other people in the mean time! Grr
And wouldn't it be great if sullymeishadomi is right?!
Well, maybe one day he'll come out of his fog but by that time you'll be sailing under clear skies.
Well done for filing for D.

PS. It's ok to hate her, you're not supposed to like your H's girlfriends


There are dark shadows on the earth, but its lights are stronger in the contrast.
Charles Dickens


Posts: 261 | Registered: Sep 2013
surviving1963
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Default  Posted: 2:30 PM, October 13th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good - cuz I'm feeling the hate.... Someday I will get past that. In the meantime - no more of her Facebook jibberish. I know the greatest revenge is my happiness. I hope someday there will be an honest, respectful, open guy full of integrity for me. Not looking anyone now. I can't even imagine such a thing. I love hearing happy endings and hope I get one:) Live and learn.


Me: 50
WH: 50 pro cake-eater, NPD, SA
Married 33 years
D-Days 3-4-12, 8-19-12 (EA, probably PA)porn,ashleymadison, etc, etc
4 sons, 3 daughters
8 grandkids
Divorcing - finally

Posts: 120 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Utah
emotionalgirl
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Default  Posted: 2:55 PM, October 13th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"Apparently her choice to have an A with my husband and break up my 32 year marriage was a good one. Too bad for me and my 7 kids. She and my WH are just acknowledging their universe and their true authentic selves."

I so would have posted that under the comment section on her FB page for all to see....but then I'm kind of a bitch that way.

(((Surviving))) may you find true peace on your path!


1st D day: Saturday July 20,2013
2nd D day....when the s**t really hit the fan and the truth came out.Saturday August 3,2013
3rd D day: Friday August 16, 2013...NC sent Friday Aug 30 4th D day NOV 11
Me: BS
Him: WH
Married 25 years....finally in R

Posts: 373 | Registered: Aug 2013
surviving1963
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Default  Posted: 3:09 PM, October 13th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

SO TEMPTING....


Me: 50
WH: 50 pro cake-eater, NPD, SA
Married 33 years
D-Days 3-4-12, 8-19-12 (EA, probably PA)porn,ashleymadison, etc, etc
4 sons, 3 daughters
8 grandkids
Divorcing - finally

Posts: 120 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Utah
StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 3:14 PM, October 13th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Others (including many of WH family and friends) perceive her as a great spiritual guide.

Telling people what they want to hear so you can be told you're great and wise is easy. Look how many people there are on the boardwalk who charge five bucks for a ten minute session to say what this woman says.

Also, something to remember: people who look for guides in life are, by their nature, followers. If you have your own path then don't be concerned with hers. Unless it goes over a cliff, then have a camera ready.


"You have insulted my footwear."

Posts: 7635 | Registered: May 2010 | From: USA
homewrecked2011
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Default  Posted: 3:17 PM, October 13th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I like emotional girls idea!!!!


Have you read Love Must Be Tough by Dr James Dobson? He totally thinks the 180 is the way to go, that it is NOT ok to share you spouse and that standing up for yourself when a spouse cheats is the way to be? It is a fast, easy read.


Keep Calm and Happy On!

me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed


Posts: 2388 | Registered: Jan 2012
headdesk
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Default  Posted: 3:31 PM, October 13th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If she's busy spouting and harvesting praise about her enlightened spirituality...she's full of hookey. That is EGO, not spirit.

People who are really enlightened don't dig for praise and live off of it. They just accept and guide others as they can, but will actually literally refuse praise of 'you're better than me' praise. Because it's bullshit. We all have our own journeys to do. None is better or worse, they just are.

I would be sorely tempted to find an article that says that and post that in the status. :D


Me: 39
WH: 42
DDay:Sep 19 2013 (only TT of EA)
Oct 4th 2013 revealed PA through snooping.
Marred 16 years, together for 20. Looking to R at this time. We have awesome kids (12/14).

Posts: 273 | Registered: Sep 2013
surviving1963
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Default  Posted: 5:59 PM, October 13th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am going to get James Dobson's book - immediately. Reading has been very therapeutic. Any understanding is so refreshing.

The "spiritual guide" who is the first to pat themselves on the back or take your dollar (she charges for a session with her) is fake.

I feel better:)


Me: 50
WH: 50 pro cake-eater, NPD, SA
Married 33 years
D-Days 3-4-12, 8-19-12 (EA, probably PA)porn,ashleymadison, etc, etc
4 sons, 3 daughters
8 grandkids
Divorcing - finally

Posts: 120 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Utah
Kalliopeia
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Default  Posted: 8:28 PM, October 13th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

They are both NPD.

I would get out of their way and let their mental disorder smash each other to bits.

They will do immense damage to each other. Let them do it.


Posts: 478 | Registered: Mar 2012
Gr8Lady
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Member # 36307
Default  Posted: 11:39 PM, October 13th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Actions have consequences, remember that when you make a choice.


BS: Me (63yo)
FWH: HIM (65yo) serial infidelities over past 35 years
OW: Many, most recent 1/2 his age
DD: Multiple unconfirmed until 2012 when I presented evidence, plus LTA with his friends wife lasting 10 years. TT over past year
So done,

Posts: 628 | Registered: Jul 2012
topperoff22
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Default  Posted: 5:27 PM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow! I am so sorry for your pain and the pain these two are causing you. ((((hugs))))


BS - Me 36
WS - Him 35 (almost 36)
Child: son, 6; just learned one on way
DDAY - July 24, 2013 (thousands spent on ex girlfriend)
DDAY2 -Aug. 3, 2013 (proof he slept with her)
R is slow going after TT for 1 month

Posts: 316 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: US
topperoff22
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Default  Posted: 5:28 PM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Have you read Love Must Be Tough by Dr James Dobson? He totally thinks the 180 is the way to go, that it is NOT ok to share you spouse and that standing up for yourself when a spouse cheats is the way to be? It is a fast, easy read.

Dr. Dobson is great. I really recommend you look into this. Right now I don't need this particular step, but I could in the future. I am going to check it out.


BS - Me 36
WS - Him 35 (almost 36)
Child: son, 6; just learned one on way
DDAY - July 24, 2013 (thousands spent on ex girlfriend)
DDAY2 -Aug. 3, 2013 (proof he slept with her)
R is slow going after TT for 1 month

Posts: 316 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: US
topperoff22
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Default  Posted: 5:32 PM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Maybe we should go comment on her page for you.


BS - Me 36
WS - Him 35 (almost 36)
Child: son, 6; just learned one on way
DDAY - July 24, 2013 (thousands spent on ex girlfriend)
DDAY2 -Aug. 3, 2013 (proof he slept with her)
R is slow going after TT for 1 month

Posts: 316 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: US
Lovedyoumore
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Default  Posted: 5:55 PM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There is a book titled "The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists". I am sure you will find her among the "others".

My H's OW is also an enlightened spiritual person who spread her modern version of love with no regrets and community of peaceful living with truth and justice for all. Thank goodness my H saw her for the false person she is after DDay.

You have been fighting against an idea, not reality, and that is an unfair fight you cannot win. If he refuses to see that enlightenment does not equate to hurting loved ones, he is a fool you are better off without.

I remember a quote from an old TV show: If you have an open mind somebody will come along and fill it with crap. Sounds like she filled him up.


Me 52
WH 52
Married 30+ years
Together trying to R

I tell people I am tired but really my heart is broken and I am sad.


Posts: 1611 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Southern, bless your heart
surviving1963
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Default  Posted: 1:36 AM, October 20th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

topperoff22 - I would receive such great satisfaction from someone posting on her page - calling her bluff.

I hate the new agey crap that dismisses all accountability and responsibility from individuals who make bad choices. OW only deals with "light and love". She is arrogant, pompous, self-righteous and hasn't the least amount of respect for me as the wife. After all - I have only been married to him for 32 years and had his 7 children. She is the ultimate hypocrite!!! People worship her and her sister (who is also a psychic). Amazing!


Me: 50
WH: 50 pro cake-eater, NPD, SA
Married 33 years
D-Days 3-4-12, 8-19-12 (EA, probably PA)porn,ashleymadison, etc, etc
4 sons, 3 daughters
8 grandkids
Divorcing - finally

Posts: 120 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Utah
heartache101
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Default  Posted: 7:30 AM, October 20th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Surviving
I would buy a billboard coming into town and close to her house with a picture of her face with an A on her forehead! She needs to own her shit and people need to be made aware.
What she really is! Just me I would probably find one close to her house too.


There are degrees to which you let people back into your life and degrees to which you let them back into your heart-which, of course, are not the same thing

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