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User Topic: Past good memories are depressing me today
suposd2btheonly1
♀ 40753
Member # 40753
Concerned  Posted: 4:55 PM, October 13th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ive been cleaning and reorganizing some rooms in my house and today it seemed that everything reminded me of the 'old days'. Days when WH and I coached the older boys' baseball teams, how much fun we had, how our afternoon and weekends were consumed with adrenaline rushed ball games and practices. Especially that last season where the team was undefeated and won everything. Thinking of the times we went out without the kids, the times we went out with the kids. The birthday parties, family barbeques, holidays, births of babies, days spent in the mountain refuge, at the park, shopping, sport events....just everything.

How sad to trigger from good memories! I want so badly to have our old life back. The only thing good that has come out of this year is the birth of my youngest, precious baby boy.


Me: BW 31
Him: WH 30
OW: 22yo whore who is still planning her wedding
Married 3yrs, together 5
4 kids, all boys 14, 11, 4 and 8mos...I hope like hell they don't hurt someone the way he hurt their mama
Dday: August 9, 2013
S, until his head

Posts: 206 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
broken81
♀ 36774
Member # 36774
Default  Posted: 5:04 PM, October 13th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Those sound like great memories. It is hard sometimes but fight the urge to let them make you sad.
Think of the new memories that will be made. sounds like you have a future ballplayer.


Me BS
him fWS
M 8yrs 2 kids
DD 2/12 lies until 4/12
2.5 yr A with an OLD married whore
working on R

Posts: 233 | Registered: Sep 2012
suposd2btheonly1
♀ 40753
Member # 40753
Default  Posted: 5:15 PM, October 13th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I do try and take an optimistic approach to the future but its so hard. It was so easy to make those old memories, now it seems to be a struggle to allow myself to want to have future memories. Especially with the way he acts sometimes.

Yes! Baseball is the main sport in our house. My older two play, my oldest is more serious although they are both very talented. The younger ones are too young but our 4yo is anxious to get started.

See talking about my kids just now made me extremely happy. Im now in a great mood and cant stop smiling.

How sad that most days anymore I cant get that same feeling back for my WH


Me: BW 31
Him: WH 30
OW: 22yo whore who is still planning her wedding
Married 3yrs, together 5
4 kids, all boys 14, 11, 4 and 8mos...I hope like hell they don't hurt someone the way he hurt their mama
Dday: August 9, 2013
S, until his head

Posts: 206 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
broken81
♀ 36774
Member # 36774
Default  Posted: 7:31 PM, October 13th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I struggle with this alot too. Thinking of a good memory makes me sad that things could turn out bad after something great or that a great memory happened during the A.

Sometimes I feel like some of my worst days come following a great day.

We cant let them ruin the memories of our kids. We only get one childhood with them. If they are the only things to make you happy right now enjoy it.


Me BS
him fWS
M 8yrs 2 kids
DD 2/12 lies until 4/12
2.5 yr A with an OLD married whore
working on R

Posts: 233 | Registered: Sep 2012
Ostrich80
34827
Member # 34827
Default  Posted: 2:01 AM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My kids.played baseball since they were 5 but the A has tainted the best memories. That's how he met ow. It sickens me that every field they've played at has such mixed emotions tied to it.
I get very depressed when I see new couples with babies. I remember each birth and just our little family being together and feeling so protected from the world. God its so sad what's happened to us.


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 5279 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
Topic Posts: 5

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