I had a (long) post about what xpos is still doing to me and how and why this feels like harassment and threats and makes me feel paranoid in my home.
Some situations have come up that mean that I will be gone, possibly for 6 months or more. That means I will not be in the area for him to harass. However, xpos still knows where I live. (In my other post, I told how he has come here while I was gone.)
This young man knows the whole situation here and his proposition is that he house-sit for me! That means the house will not be empty and available for him to tamper with things here and he will take care of things in my absence.
However, this does present a whole set of issues around him being in my house while I'm gone..... namely, MY things that will be left in the house and what he will bring with him, what he will use of my stuff and what I NEED to take with me of personal stuff. I trust him, but still.....
He and I are getting together to talk about this soon. What do I need to discuss with him, what do I need to be sure to take with me, what do I need to put in writing? And anything else??
I have had some suggestions by people about this, but they haven't been all that helpful as far as I'm concerned. I believe it may be because they are too close to it to be objective.
DS, who is reminding me more and more of xpos with some things he says and does, told me that the more he thinks about it, the more he thinks it's a terrible idea. But I haven't told him about what xpos is doing and will not discuss that issue with him.