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It's right there!!!!!!!!!!

He never, ever does this. He brings it to the bathroom, the basement, it is never, ever out of his sight. There are plugs downstairs, is it temptation on purpose, or just stealing my plug and being forgetful? I don't think forgetful.

The saga continues.

XPervert has gotten a little..."friendlier" lately. (My guard is still up).

I am like a kid in a candy store because he actually left his non-work cell phone in the house where I am and he went to other places to play with DD.

Omg...it's the lifeline to OW and I want very much to jump on it and send a break up message!!!!!!!!!!

Where will I get the strength?

Why do I even care that it's there?

The "work phone" is left more often and he's even showed it to me, but the PP-"Personal Phone"-is never, ever left alone.

I bet it's pass worded?

Why do I even care? So damn hard.

It's.right.there. I could send a message and wreck it all.

I think I don't pick it up because I don't know the phone and if I mess it up he will know I touched it.

How would your life be improved by looking? By texting? By having anything to do with it?

Honey - walk away from it. Your attention, your focus, and your energy should only be spent ON YOU AND YOUR KIDS. Not him. Not OW.

Strength.

Pretend the phone has cooties. And if you touch it, you will get cooties.

Just kidding! Unless you need proof of something, I wouldn't touch it. I know it's very tempting though. If it were me, I know I am so done with stbx that I truly don't give a shit about what he does with his phone.

Good luck Ashland13!

Thank you, that's what I needed. I haven't gone near it again.

I would feel too much like stooping. I think it was the surprise of it being left alone after all this time.

I want very much to not care.

And have a lot of pride that I haven't touched it.

The high road, the high road, the high road.

But it would be so much fun to mess with people as I was messed with. And he doesn't do anything without passwords, even his laundry, lol.

Thanks you guys. There's miles of proof, he plastered it all over FB and told people and wanted to get caught so he could end his life here.

[This message edited by Ashland13 at 7:53 PM, October 13th (Sunday)]

I want very much to not care.

You'll get there, honey. You're already well down that path.

Check the email! You might get valuable info on his next legal move!

I'm so glad you left it alone.

I love this advice - it will set you free:

Your attention, your focus, and your energy should only be spent ON YOU AND YOUR KIDS. Not him. Not OW.

I once had SA OW's phone. It actually went for a drive over state lines with me while I thought about what to do with it! I used my own phone to call a few friends who had some funny advice. It was a government issued phone, and had government contact info about returning it if lost.

I wanted to throw it in the river. Or in the woods. I thought about tossing it over the fence of a foreign embassy near my house. Or walking into a strip club and dropping it on the floor. Or one of OW's sex clubs.

But I just went home and threw it in STBX's bag. As soon as I did, I felt great relief. I'm not going to break the law, and anyhow, her phone felt evil and cursed, just like her.

I would have snooped just to look for any legal moves he might be making. Never hurts to have the upper hand.