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soconfusednow posted 10/13/2013 21:54 PM

In the beginning, just before I confirmed my suspicions WH started calling me & our daughter sweetie. I had been hopeful that it was an improvement in our M, even though my gut told me something different. It crushed me, when I found the texts calling the OW sweetie.

As I laid beside H tonight he called me....... sweetie

Oh God, please tell me we're not going back there again.

[This message edited by soconfusednow at 10:02 PM, October 13th (Sunday)]

suposd2btheonly1 posted 10/13/2013 21:57 PM

(((soconfused)))

My WH always called me princess, he called her princes. I cringe when he calls me that anymore. I told him not to but he does anyway. He tells me it was "just a line" he used on her....gee thanks for giving her my nickname

soconfusednow posted 10/13/2013 22:06 PM

The worst part is, I haven't heard that in months and I know she has called him for work related things twice in the past week or two.

gonnabe2016 posted 10/13/2013 22:18 PM

The buzzword at my house wasn't sweetie....it was kiddo.

When I heard stbx using the word *kiddo*, I knew that he was back to his old tricks. And I was proven correct.

Trust.Your.Gut.

suposd2btheonly1 posted 10/13/2013 22:20 PM

I agree with Gonnabe

Gr8Lady posted 10/14/2013 01:30 AM

Yup trust your gut.

According to my IC, often the WS uses an endearment term it is often so they don't "slip" up .

My buzzword was Babe.
So reminds me of a pig. Remember the movie?

At least I have my sense of humor.

TheAmazingWondertwin posted 10/14/2013 06:27 AM

Mine was "girlfriend"

I saw him call her that in his texts.
Split me in half.

I called him on it. He hasn't used it since.

hopingforhappy posted 10/14/2013 11:27 AM

He called her every one of the same pet names he called me. He claims that it didn't really mean anything--he just has a limited vocabulary in terms of endearments. I suspect that there was an element of not having to keep up any different names straight.

libertyrocks posted 10/14/2013 12:19 PM

Everytime I hear him tell me I'm beautiful, I think of him telling all 8OW the same thing.

Tell him that so he won't call you sweetie anymore.

I made up a new name. No more babe, it's hon now.

silentheart posted 10/14/2013 15:37 PM

I so relate to this. DD for me was reading through pages and pages of Chat Conversations. Throughout those I noticed that she would use the phrase when talking to my BF "so, when do we get to do some quality visiting" and he would say it back to her - it became kinda like a thing with them. Like "I'm so glad you can meet me today, we get to do some quality visiting". Just that line alone made me want to vomit b/c on date nights that me and my BF had once a week he had been saying that to me for a few years like on the day of date night he would say to me "I'm looking forward to date night, and in a funny voice he would say to me "let's get to some quality visiting" - I had always thought it was cute until fast forward me reading their messages. Also when they would text late at night they would always sign off as 'nite and the other would day 'nite. Well after it all came out (this past year) my BF a few times when he has been out of town has texted me at the end of the evening and said 'nite. It grates on every nerve I have and I told him to NEVER say 'nite to me and to NEVER use the term "quality visiting" b/c they made me nauseous. The triggers are so difficult to deal with.

hobbeskat posted 10/14/2013 17:03 PM

When he calls me cute, I have a visceral, almost vomiting reaction. It's what he called her, to me.

ArkLaMiss posted 10/15/2013 01:03 AM

Yeah, pretty sure mine did this and this thread is making me feel sick. The nasty Michigan hoe said he called her something, but he "can't remember" what. Yeah, right.

TheAmazingWondertwin posted 10/15/2013 09:42 AM

Well, TERD. Me and my big mouth.

He called me "girlfriend" this morning.

And I was feeling so skippy today.

TrustGone posted 10/15/2013 10:05 AM

Mine called me princess. He also called his sisters princess. I am sure he also called his OW princess. He is not very original in his terms of endearment.
Now it pisses me off and I have told him I am no longer your princess, I am the fucking Queen and don't you ever forget it. He hasn't called me princess since.

soconfusednow posted 10/15/2013 10:23 AM

He called me "girlfriend" this morning.

Sorry wonder twin.

I have told him I am no longer your princess, I am the fucking Queen and don't you ever forget it.

I love it!

Yakamishi posted 10/15/2013 11:25 AM

WW and I called each other sweetie from year one. When I found out it was what they called each other, I dumped the term completely and asked the same of her. Still hurts to think about it.