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soconfusednow (original poster member #40078) posted at 3:54 AM on Monday, October 14th, 2013
In the beginning, just before I confirmed my suspicions WH started calling me & our daughter sweetie. I had been hopeful that it was an improvement in our M, even though my gut told me something different. It crushed me, when I found the texts calling the OW sweetie.
As I laid beside H tonight he called me....... sweetie 
Oh God, please tell me we're not going back there again.
[This message edited by soconfusednow at 10:02 PM, October 13th (Sunday)]
D-Day January 2013
prior EA in the 90's
me 50's WH 50's
NC-several, last broken NC 7/2013 (?)
Married 30+ years, 2 kids
Want to believe it's over, but is it really? Will I ever trust again?
suposd2btheonly1 ( member #40753) posted at 3:57 AM on Monday, October 14th, 2013
(((soconfused)))
My WH always called me princess, he called her princes. I cringe when he calls me that anymore. I told him not to but he does anyway. He tells me it was "just a line" he used on her....gee thanks for giving her my nickname
Me: BW 31
Him: WH 30
OW: 22yo whore who is still planning her wedding
Married 3yrs, together 5
4 kids, all boys 14, 11, 4 and 8mos...I hope like hell they don't hurt someone the way he hurt their mama
Dday: August 9, 2013
S, until his head
soconfusednow (original poster member #40078) posted at 4:06 AM on Monday, October 14th, 2013
The worst part is, I haven't heard that in months and I know she has called him for work related things twice in the past week or two. 
D-Day January 2013
prior EA in the 90's
me 50's WH 50's
NC-several, last broken NC 7/2013 (?)
Married 30+ years, 2 kids
Want to believe it's over, but is it really? Will I ever trust again?
gonnabe2016 ( member #34823) posted at 4:18 AM on Monday, October 14th, 2013
The buzzword at my house wasn't sweetie....it was kiddo.
When I heard stbx using the word *kiddo*, I knew that he was back to his old tricks. And I was proven correct.
Trust.Your.Gut.
"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
suposd2btheonly1 ( member #40753) posted at 4:20 AM on Monday, October 14th, 2013
Me: BW 31
Him: WH 30
OW: 22yo whore who is still planning her wedding
Married 3yrs, together 5
4 kids, all boys 14, 11, 4 and 8mos...I hope like hell they don't hurt someone the way he hurt their mama
Dday: August 9, 2013
S, until his head
Gr8Lady ( member #36307) posted at 7:30 AM on Monday, October 14th, 2013
Yup trust your gut.
According to my IC, often the WS uses an endearment term it is often so they don't "slip" up .
My buzzword was Babe.
So reminds me of a pig. Remember the movie?
At least I have my sense of humor.
BS: Me (70yo)FWH: HIM (72 yo)) serial infidelities over past 35 years
DD: Multiple unconfirmed until 2013
friends wife lasting 10 years. TT over a
year a year. Now his health is declining,
among the lack of communication.
TheAmazingWondertwin ( member #40769) posted at 12:27 PM on Monday, October 14th, 2013
Mine was "girlfriend"
I saw him call her that in his texts.
Split me in half.
I called him on it. He hasn't used it since.
Just call me Wonder
If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice.
The axe "forgets"- the tree remembers.
Divorced and super good with tha
2 DS- 15 and 16
DDay 1- 07-24-2013
DDay 2- June something or other 2017
hopingforhappy ( member #29288) posted at 5:27 PM on Monday, October 14th, 2013
He called her every one of the same pet names he called me. He claims that it didn't really mean anything--he just has a limited vocabulary in terms of endearments. I suspect that there was an element of not having to keep up any different names straight.
Me--BW (57)
Him--FWH (54)--5yr. LTA--OW probably BPD
Married 21 years
DS-19, DD-16
Reconciling--but boy is it hard!
libertyrocks ( member #38924) posted at 6:19 PM on Monday, October 14th, 2013
Everytime I hear him tell me I'm beautiful, I think of him telling all 8OW the same thing.
Tell him that so he won't call you sweetie anymore.
I made up a new name. No more babe, it's hon now.
Me-37 Ws-37
2 kids
Dday Nov 2012, TT for a year.
Reconciling for the third time in 4 years.
silentheart ( member #40903) posted at 9:37 PM on Monday, October 14th, 2013
I so relate to this. DD for me was reading through pages and pages of Chat Conversations. Throughout those I noticed that she would use the phrase when talking to my BF "so, when do we get to do some quality visiting" and he would say it back to her - it became kinda like a thing with them. Like "I'm so glad you can meet me today, we get to do some quality visiting". Just that line alone made me want to vomit b/c on date nights that me and my BF had once a week he had been saying that to me for a few years like on the day of date night he would say to me "I'm looking forward to date night, and in a funny voice he would say to me "let's get to some quality visiting" - I had always thought it was cute until fast forward me reading their messages. Also when they would text late at night they would always sign off as 'nite and the other would day 'nite. Well after it all came out (this past year) my BF a few times when he has been out of town has texted me at the end of the evening and said 'nite. It grates on every nerve I have and I told him to NEVER say 'nite to me and to NEVER use the term "quality visiting" b/c they made me nauseous. The triggers are so difficult to deal with.
Me: BW, 37
Him: SO, 37
No children
Committed relationship 13 years
Dday: July, 2012
hobbeskat ( member #38805) posted at 11:03 PM on Monday, October 14th, 2013
When he calls me cute, I have a visceral, almost vomiting reaction. It's what he called her, to me.
ArkLaMiss ( member #14918) posted at 7:03 AM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
Yeah, pretty sure mine did this and this thread is making me feel sick. The nasty Michigan hoe said he called her something, but he "can't remember" what. Yeah, right.
Just HOW stupid do you think I am, exactly?
TheAmazingWondertwin ( member #40769) posted at 3:42 PM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
Well, TERD. Me and my big mouth.
He called me "girlfriend" this morning.
And I was feeling so skippy today.
Just call me Wonder
If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice.
The axe "forgets"- the tree remembers.
Divorced and super good with tha
2 DS- 15 and 16
DDay 1- 07-24-2013
DDay 2- June something or other 2017
TrustGone ( member #36654) posted at 4:05 PM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
Mine called me princess. He also called his sisters princess. I am sure he also called his OW princess. He is not very original in his terms of endearment. 
Now it pisses me off and I have told him I am no longer your princess, I am the fucking Queen and don't you ever forget it. He hasn't called me princess since. 
XWH#2-No longer my monkey Divorced 8/15, Now married to a wonderful man.
"A person is either an asset or a lesson"
"Changing who you are with does not change who you are"
soconfusednow (original poster member #40078) posted at 4:23 PM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
He called me "girlfriend" this morning.
Sorry wonder twin.
I have told him I am no longer your princess, I am the fucking Queen and don't you ever forget it.
I love it!
D-Day January 2013
prior EA in the 90's
me 50's WH 50's
NC-several, last broken NC 7/2013 (?)
Married 30+ years, 2 kids
Want to believe it's over, but is it really? Will I ever trust again?
Yakamishi ( member #38230) posted at 5:25 PM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
WW and I called each other sweetie from year one. When I found out it was what they called each other, I dumped the term completely and asked the same of her. Still hurts to think about it.
Me: BH
Her: WW Mrs.yaka
Kids:4
Variouse clues to EA. WW promised it would stop.
D-Day of EA 9/13/2012 2:01PM found 2 yrs of text messages, confessed to EA
D-Day of PA: confessed on 9/22/12 11:53 PM. Worst moment of my life
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