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User Topic: he called her sweetie
soconfusednow
♀ 40078
Member # 40078
Frustrated  Posted: 9:54 PM, October 13th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

In the beginning, just before I confirmed my suspicions WH started calling me & our daughter sweetie. I had been hopeful that it was an improvement in our M, even though my gut told me something different. It crushed me, when I found the texts calling the OW sweetie.

As I laid beside H tonight he called me....... sweetie

Oh God, please tell me we're not going back there again.

[This message edited by soconfusednow at 10:02 PM, October 13th (Sunday)]


D-Day January 2013
prior EA in the 90's
me 50
WH 52
NC-several
last broken NC 7/2013 (hopefully)
Married 29 years
2 kids
Want to believe it's over, but is it really? Will I ever trust again?

Posts: 331 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
suposd2btheonly1
♀ 40753
Member # 40753
Default  Posted: 9:57 PM, October 13th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((soconfused)))

My WH always called me princess, he called her princes. I cringe when he calls me that anymore. I told him not to but he does anyway. He tells me it was "just a line" he used on her....gee thanks for giving her my nickname


Me: BW 31
Him: WH 30
OW: 22yo whore who is still planning her wedding
Married 3yrs, together 5
4 kids, all boys 14, 11, 4 and 8mos...I hope like hell they don't hurt someone the way he hurt their mama
Dday: August 9, 2013
S, until his head

Posts: 206 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
soconfusednow
♀ 40078
Member # 40078
Default  Posted: 10:06 PM, October 13th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The worst part is, I haven't heard that in months and I know she has called him for work related things twice in the past week or two.


D-Day January 2013
prior EA in the 90's
me 50
WH 52
NC-several
last broken NC 7/2013 (hopefully)
Married 29 years
2 kids
Want to believe it's over, but is it really? Will I ever trust again?

Posts: 331 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
gonnabe2016
♀ 34823
Member # 34823
Default  Posted: 10:18 PM, October 13th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The buzzword at my house wasn't sweetie....it was kiddo.

When I heard stbx using the word *kiddo*, I knew that he was back to his old tricks. And I was proven correct.

Trust.Your.Gut.


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 8252 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
suposd2btheonly1
♀ 40753
Member # 40753
Default  Posted: 10:20 PM, October 13th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree with Gonnabe


Me: BW 31
Him: WH 30
OW: 22yo whore who is still planning her wedding
Married 3yrs, together 5
4 kids, all boys 14, 11, 4 and 8mos...I hope like hell they don't hurt someone the way he hurt their mama
Dday: August 9, 2013
S, until his head

Posts: 206 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
Gr8Lady
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Member # 36307
Default  Posted: 1:30 AM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yup trust your gut.

According to my IC, often the WS uses an endearment term it is often so they don't "slip" up .

My buzzword was Babe.
So reminds me of a pig. Remember the movie?

At least I have my sense of humor.


BS: Me (63yo)
FWH: HIM (65yo) serial infidelities over past 35 years
OW: Many, most recent 1/2 his age
DD: Multiple unconfirmed until 2012 when I presented evidence, plus LTA with his friends wife lasting 10 years. TT over past year
So done,

Posts: 628 | Registered: Jul 2012
TheAmazingWondertwin
♀ 40769
Member # 40769
Default  Posted: 6:27 AM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mine was "girlfriend"

I saw him call her that in his texts.
Split me in half.

I called him on it. He hasn't used it since.


Everyday is a new day, some good, some bad.
Me- BS 39
Him- FWS
15 years
DD- 14 and DS- 13
DDay- 07-24-2013
NC broken from August 6- 24, 2013
Avalanche of Truth on November 14, 2013
Length of A: June 10th to Dday- with broken NC

Posts: 487 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: East Coast
hopingforhappy
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Member # 29288
Default  Posted: 11:27 AM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He called her every one of the same pet names he called me. He claims that it didn't really mean anything--he just has a limited vocabulary in terms of endearments. I suspect that there was an element of not having to keep up any different names straight.


Me--BW (56)
Him--FWH (53)--5yr. LTA--OW probably BPD
Married 20 years
DS-18, DD-15
Reconciling--but boy is it hard!

Posts: 1378 | Registered: Aug 2010
libertyrocks
♀ 38924
Member # 38924
Default  Posted: 12:19 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Everytime I hear him tell me I'm beautiful, I think of him telling all 8OW the same thing.

Tell him that so he won't call you sweetie anymore.

I made up a new name. No more babe, it's hon now.


Me-BW 36. STBXH-35,Recovering Alcoholic, M6yrs T13. Boys 2 & 4 1/2.
DDay #1 Nov,2012. 1 1/2 year false R & TT. 10 OW PA's 1LTA (W lied to) 3 years.
S Nov, 2013 again Jan,2014
Filed for D Feb,2014.

Posts: 962 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: So Cal, baby. :)
silentheart
♀ 40903
Member # 40903
Default  Posted: 3:37 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I so relate to this. DD for me was reading through pages and pages of Chat Conversations. Throughout those I noticed that she would use the phrase when talking to my BF "so, when do we get to do some quality visiting" and he would say it back to her - it became kinda like a thing with them. Like "I'm so glad you can meet me today, we get to do some quality visiting". Just that line alone made me want to vomit b/c on date nights that me and my BF had once a week he had been saying that to me for a few years like on the day of date night he would say to me "I'm looking forward to date night, and in a funny voice he would say to me "let's get to some quality visiting" - I had always thought it was cute until fast forward me reading their messages. Also when they would text late at night they would always sign off as 'nite and the other would day 'nite. Well after it all came out (this past year) my BF a few times when he has been out of town has texted me at the end of the evening and said 'nite. It grates on every nerve I have and I told him to NEVER say 'nite to me and to NEVER use the term "quality visiting" b/c they made me nauseous. The triggers are so difficult to deal with.


Me: BW, 37
Him: SO, 37
No children
Committed relationship 13 years
Dday: July, 2012

Posts: 51 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Texas
hobbeskat
♀ 38805
Member # 38805
Default  Posted: 5:03 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When he calls me cute, I have a visceral, almost vomiting reaction. It's what he called her, to me.

Posts: 309 | Registered: Mar 2013
ArkLaMiss
♀ 14918
Member # 14918
Default  Posted: 1:03 AM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah, pretty sure mine did this and this thread is making me feel sick. The nasty Michigan hoe said he called her something, but he "can't remember" what. Yeah, right.


Just HOW stupid do you think I am, exactly?

Posts: 1244 | Registered: Jun 2007
TheAmazingWondertwin
♀ 40769
Member # 40769
Default  Posted: 9:42 AM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, TERD. Me and my big mouth.

He called me "girlfriend" this morning.

And I was feeling so skippy today.


Everyday is a new day, some good, some bad.
Me- BS 39
Him- FWS
15 years
DD- 14 and DS- 13
DDay- 07-24-2013
NC broken from August 6- 24, 2013
Avalanche of Truth on November 14, 2013
Length of A: June 10th to Dday- with broken NC

Posts: 487 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: East Coast
TrustGone
♀ 36654
Member # 36654
Default  Posted: 10:05 AM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mine called me princess. He also called his sisters princess. I am sure he also called his OW princess. He is not very original in his terms of endearment.
Now it pisses me off and I have told him I am no longer your princess, I am the fucking Queen and don't you ever forget it. He hasn't called me princess since.


BW-52
WH#2-53
M-10 yrs T-12 yrs
4 children-none together
DD#1-9/5/11 LTA 2yrs
DD#2-7/3/12 False R
DD#3-4/29/13 (OW broke NC)
DD#4-11/28/14 He ran off to be with OW after assaulting me
Divorcing

Posts: 2488 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Texas
soconfusednow
♀ 40078
Member # 40078
Default  Posted: 10:23 AM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He called me "girlfriend" this morning.

Sorry wonder twin.


I have told him I am no longer your princess, I am the fucking Queen and don't you ever forget it.

I love it!


D-Day January 2013
prior EA in the 90's
me 50
WH 52
NC-several
last broken NC 7/2013 (hopefully)
Married 29 years
2 kids
Want to believe it's over, but is it really? Will I ever trust again?

Posts: 331 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
Yakamishi
♂ 38230
Member # 38230
Default  Posted: 11:25 AM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WW and I called each other sweetie from year one. When I found out it was what they called each other, I dumped the term completely and asked the same of her. Still hurts to think about it.


Me: BH
Her: WW Mrs.yaka
Kids:4
Variouse clues to EA. WW promised it would stop.
D-Day of EA 9/13/2012 2:01PM found 2 yrs of text messages, confessed to EA
D-Day of PA: confessed on 9/22/12 11:53 PM. Worst moment of my life

Posts: 222 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Massachusetts
Topic Posts: 16

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