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Topic: Biopsy Today - support asked for
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Skan
♀ 35812
Member # 35812 |  Posted: 12:23 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013 |     |
I could use a lot of mojo and positive prayers sent my way today. My FWH has a prostrate biopsy today at 3:30. We are both scared, but frankly, he’s terrified. His father died of prostate cancer, his mother of breast cancer. Last year, I had a breast cancer scare, which was just over a year from the time his mother died of it, and this year his eldest sister had breast cancer and underwent a successful surgery for it. He is convinced, unconsciously I believe, that he is going to have cancer as well, We’ve had several heart-rending talks about this fear of dying like his father, his fear of cancer period, his fear of burdening me with his “unreasonable” fear, his allowing the fear to explode into him reacting in old, bad habits, and you name it. It’s been a really stomach-twisting time for us for the last two weeks. Plus his fears of finally having driven me away since I have not committed to staying or going until we get his diagnosis. We are still in an in-house separation, being very supportive of each other, talking often, and being very kind to each other. Sorta living in limbo.
In any case, I would really appreciate your prayers, mojo, positive energy, and so on today and until we get his diagnosis.
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
Posts: 9283 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California |
MovingUpward
♂ 14866
Member # 14866 | | Posted: 12:28 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013 | |
Sending prayers along to you and your H
Posts: 54405 | Registered: Jun 2007 |
sisoon
♂ 31240
Member # 31240 | | Posted: 12:29 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013 | |
I'm in, hoping for a clean biopsy.
fBH (me) - 70+, fWW, Married 45+, together 45+, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
I share my own experience because it's all I know.
Posts: 15790 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Illinois |
TrustGone
♀ 36654
Member # 36654 | | Posted: 12:32 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013 | |
Sending prayers and mojo your way. I know how scary this can be.
BS-54 XWH#2-No longer my monkey
M-11yrs LTA-5yrs Divorced 8/15
"A person is either an asset or a lesson"
"Changing who you are with does not change who you are"
Posts: 8551 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Texas |
emotionalgirl
♀ 40184
Member # 40184 | | Posted: 12:32 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013 | |
(((Skan))) I have been there...my mom had breast cancer my step dad prostate cancer and I had a tumour in my chest wall. I don't think anyone can understand how stressful and scary that wait is!
My thoughts and prayers are with you both!🙏
1st D day: Saturday July 20,2013
2nd D day....when the s**t really hit the fan and the truth came out.Saturday August 3,2013
3rd D day: Friday August 16, 2013...NC sent Friday Aug 30 4th D day NOV 11
Me: BS
Him: WH
Married 25 years....finally in R
Posts: 377 | Registered: Aug 2013 |
Truly
♀ 40715
Member # 40715 | | Posted: 12:35 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013 | |
Positive energy flying your way x
There are dark shadows on the earth, but its lights are stronger in the contrast.
Charles Dickens
Posts: 266 | Registered: Sep 2013 |
Peaches2013
♀ 40852
Member # 40852 | | Posted: 12:36 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013 | |
Sending good mojo your way.
Me: BS
Him: WH ONS/short EA
Married 11 years
Together 15 years
2 children
Posts: 64 | Registered: Oct 2013 |
PhoenixRising88
♀ 35214
Member # 35214 | | Posted: 12:38 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013 | |
((((((skan)))))))
Good karma coming at you!
Me: BS(45)Him: EX, aka "The Dink"(52). D-Day#1 12/22/11. D-Day#2 5/23/13. Divorced 1/10/14.
New chapter of my life- married 11/13/15 to the man I'd thought I would never find.
Throw me to the wolves and I'll return leading the pack.
Posts: 443 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: North Texas |
neverdidithink
♀ 40568
Member # 40568 | | Posted: 12:42 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013 | |
(((skan))) Prayers and wishes that the good news is delivered quickly.
BS, 54
M 10 years
second marriage, second WH
4 kids in their 20s
Posts: 437 | Registered: Sep 2013 |
brokendancer7
♀ 39911
Member # 39911 | | Posted: 12:44 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013 | |
Prayers and mojo for you and your husband today!
Me: BS - 61
Him: WS - 59
Married 37 yrs
Latest DD - April 2013, PA
Posts: 287 | Registered: Jul 2013 |
heartache101
♀ 26465
Member # 26465 | | Posted: 12:45 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013 | |
Skan
Prayers yourvway.
There are degrees to which you let people back into your life and degrees to which you let them back into your heart-which, of course, are not the same thing
Posts: 3223 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Indiana |
heartache101
♀ 26465
Member # 26465 | | Posted: 12:45 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013 | |
Skan
Prayers yourvway.
There are degrees to which you let people back into your life and degrees to which you let them back into your heart-which, of course, are not the same thing
Posts: 3223 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Indiana |
Sparkle0504
♀ 40379
Member # 40379 | | Posted: 12:46 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013 | |
Been through this with my first husband - unfortunately results were positive and he was very ill BUT has been in full remission for many years and getting married again soon, so all's well.
It's a horrible time, I know and my heart goes out to you. Not particularly religious but thinking of you both. Stay strong.
(((hugs)))
Caitlin
Me 46 (BS) Him 54 (SAWH)
DDay (too many to mention), but 1st 06/2011
His addiction is more important than me...and him. Divorcing.
Posts: 376 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: England |
Thinkingtoomuch
♀ 31765
Member # 31765 | | Posted: 12:46 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013 | |
Prayers on their way, Skan. Good luck. So much stress!
Posts: 882 | Registered: Apr 2011 |
authenticnow
♀ 16024
Member # 16024 | | Posted: 12:55 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013 | |
(((Skan)))
I'm going to move this to OT for you, so you can get support in the appropriate forum.
“Empathy has no script. There is no right way or wrong way to do it. It’s simply listening, holding space, withholding judgment, emotionally connecting, and communicating that incredibly healing message of “you’re not alone.” ~ Brene Brown
Posts: 54941 | Registered: Sep 2007 |
jo2love
♀ 31528
Member # 31528 | | Posted: 1:03 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013 | |
Sending mojo and prayers.
Posts: 49745 | Registered: Mar 2011 |
lost_in_toronto
♀ 25395
Member # 25395 | | Posted: 1:15 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013 | |
Mojo sent, to you and your FWH.
Me: BS/41
Him: WS/39
DDay: August 23, 2009
Together 16 years.
Reconciled.
Posts: 1800 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: not toronto anymore |
tushnurse
♀ 21101
Member # 21101 | | Posted: 1:21 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013 | |
Mojo on it's way.
((((and strength))))
Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 16 & 18
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
Posts: 12868 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis |
catlover50
♀ 37154
Member # 37154 | | Posted: 2:02 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013 | |
Thinking of you both today.
Dday -9/23/2012
Reconciling
Posts: 2243 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: northeast |
Deeply Scared
♀ 2
Member # 2 | | Posted: 2:07 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013 | |
Good thoughts to you both.
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
Posts: 210060 | Registered: May 2002 |
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