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User Topic: Biopsy Today - support asked for
Skan
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Default  Posted: 12:23 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I could use a lot of mojo and positive prayers sent my way today. My FWH has a prostrate biopsy today at 3:30. We are both scared, but frankly, he’s terrified. His father died of prostate cancer, his mother of breast cancer. Last year, I had a breast cancer scare, which was just over a year from the time his mother died of it, and this year his eldest sister had breast cancer and underwent a successful surgery for it. He is convinced, unconsciously I believe, that he is going to have cancer as well, We’ve had several heart-rending talks about this fear of dying like his father, his fear of cancer period, his fear of burdening me with his “unreasonable” fear, his allowing the fear to explode into him reacting in old, bad habits, and you name it. It’s been a really stomach-twisting time for us for the last two weeks. Plus his fears of finally having driven me away since I have not committed to staying or going until we get his diagnosis. We are still in an in-house separation, being very supportive of each other, talking often, and being very kind to each other. Sorta living in limbo.

In any case, I would really appreciate your prayers, mojo, positive energy, and so on today and until we get his diagnosis.


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 5100 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 12:28 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending prayers along to you and your H


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


Posts: 53012 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
sisoon
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Default  Posted: 12:29 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm in, hoping for a clean biopsy.


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 10573 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
TrustGone
♀ 36654
Member # 36654
Default  Posted: 12:32 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending prayers and mojo your way. I know how scary this can be.


BW-50
WH#2-51
M-9 yrs T-11 yrs
4 children-none together
DD#1-9/5/11 LTA 2yrs
DD#2-7/3/12 False R
DD#3-4/29/13 (OW broke NC)
Status: Your guess is as good as mine.

Posts: 2420 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Texas
emotionalgirl
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Default  Posted: 12:32 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Skan))) I have been there...my mom had breast cancer my step dad prostate cancer and I had a tumour in my chest wall. I don't think anyone can understand how stressful and scary that wait is!

My thoughts and prayers are with you both!🙏


1st D day: Saturday July 20,2013
2nd D day....when the s**t really hit the fan and the truth came out.Saturday August 3,2013
3rd D day: Friday August 16, 2013...NC sent Friday Aug 30 4th D day NOV 11
Me: BS
Him: WH
Married 25 years....finally in R

Posts: 373 | Registered: Aug 2013
Truly
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Default  Posted: 12:35 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Positive energy flying your way x


There are dark shadows on the earth, but its lights are stronger in the contrast.
Charles Dickens


Posts: 257 | Registered: Sep 2013
Peaches2013
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Default  Posted: 12:36 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending good mojo your way.


Me: BS
Him: WH ONS/short EA
Married 11 years
Together 15 years
2 children

Posts: 64 | Registered: Oct 2013
PhoenixRising88
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Default  Posted: 12:38 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((((skan)))))))

Good karma coming at you!


Me: BS (43)Him: EX, aka "The Dink"(50)
D-Day#1 12/22/11. D-Day#2 5/23/2013.

Divorce final 2/10/14.

Throw me to the wolves and I'll return leading the pack.


Posts: 434 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: North Texas
neverdidithink
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Default  Posted: 12:42 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((skan))) Prayers and wishes that the good news is delivered quickly.


Me: BW 52
Him: WH 55
Married 8 years
4 20-something his and hers kids

Trying to understand the behavior of some people is like trying to smell the color 9


Posts: 344 | Registered: Sep 2013
brokendancer7
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Default  Posted: 12:44 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Prayers and mojo for you and your husband today!


Me: BS - 58
Him: WS - 56
Married 34 yrs

Latest DD - April 2013, PA


Posts: 198 | Registered: Jul 2013
heartache101
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Default  Posted: 12:45 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Skan
Prayers yourvway.


There are degrees to which you let people back into your life and degrees to which you let them back into your heart-which, of course, are not the same thing

Posts: 3198 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Indiana
heartache101
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Default  Posted: 12:45 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Skan
Prayers yourvway.


There are degrees to which you let people back into your life and degrees to which you let them back into your heart-which, of course, are not the same thing

Posts: 3198 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Indiana
Sparkle0504
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Default  Posted: 12:46 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Been through this with my first husband - unfortunately results were positive and he was very ill BUT has been in full remission for many years and getting married again soon, so all's well.

It's a horrible time, I know and my heart goes out to you. Not particularly religious but thinking of you both. Stay strong.

(((hugs)))

Caitlin


Me 44 (BS) Him 52 (SAWH)
DDay (too many to mention), but 1st 06/2011

The truth hurts, but nowhere near as much as the lies
"Sounds harsh, but she's my wife and I'm supposed to be there when she's having sex" Sal1995


Posts: 247 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: England
Thinkingtoomuch
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Default  Posted: 12:46 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Prayers on their way, Skan. Good luck. So much stress!


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authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 12:55 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Skan)))

I'm going to move this to OT for you, so you can get support in the appropriate forum.


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 1:03 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending mojo and prayers.

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lost_in_toronto
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Default  Posted: 1:15 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mojo sent, to you and your FWH.


Me: BS/39
Him: WS/37
DDay: August 23, 2009
Together 14 years.
Reconciled.

Posts: 1710 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: not toronto anymore
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 1:21 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mojo on it's way.

((((and strength))))


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8798 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
catlover50
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Default  Posted: 2:02 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thinking of you both today.



Dday -9/24/2012
Reconciling

Posts: 1817 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: northeast
Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 2:07 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good thoughts to you both.


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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