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Skan posted 10/14/2013 12:23 PM

I could use a lot of mojo and positive prayers sent my way today. My FWH has a prostrate biopsy today at 3:30. We are both scared, but frankly, he’s terrified. His father died of prostate cancer, his mother of breast cancer. Last year, I had a breast cancer scare, which was just over a year from the time his mother died of it, and this year his eldest sister had breast cancer and underwent a successful surgery for it. He is convinced, unconsciously I believe, that he is going to have cancer as well, We’ve had several heart-rending talks about this fear of dying like his father, his fear of cancer period, his fear of burdening me with his “unreasonable” fear, his allowing the fear to explode into him reacting in old, bad habits, and you name it. It’s been a really stomach-twisting time for us for the last two weeks. Plus his fears of finally having driven me away since I have not committed to staying or going until we get his diagnosis. We are still in an in-house separation, being very supportive of each other, talking often, and being very kind to each other. Sorta living in limbo.

In any case, I would really appreciate your prayers, mojo, positive energy, and so on today and until we get his diagnosis.

MovingUpward posted 10/14/2013 12:28 PM

Sending prayers along to you and your H

sisoon posted 10/14/2013 12:29 PM

I'm in, hoping for a clean biopsy.

TrustGone posted 10/14/2013 12:32 PM

Sending prayers and mojo your way. I know how scary this can be.

emotionalgirl posted 10/14/2013 12:32 PM

(((Skan))) I have been there...my mom had breast cancer my step dad prostate cancer and I had a tumour in my chest wall. I don't think anyone can understand how stressful and scary that wait is!

My thoughts and prayers are with you both!🙏

Truly posted 10/14/2013 12:35 PM

Positive energy flying your way x

Peaches2013 posted 10/14/2013 12:36 PM

Sending good mojo your way.

PhoenixRising88 posted 10/14/2013 12:38 PM

((((((skan)))))))

Good karma coming at you!

neverdidithink posted 10/14/2013 12:42 PM

(((skan))) Prayers and wishes that the good news is delivered quickly.

brokendancer7 posted 10/14/2013 12:44 PM

Prayers and mojo for you and your husband today!

heartache101 posted 10/14/2013 12:45 PM

Skan
Prayers yourvway.

heartache101 posted 10/14/2013 12:45 PM

Skan
Prayers yourvway.

Sparkle0504 posted 10/14/2013 12:46 PM

Been through this with my first husband - unfortunately results were positive and he was very ill BUT has been in full remission for many years and getting married again soon, so all's well.

It's a horrible time, I know and my heart goes out to you. Not particularly religious but thinking of you both. Stay strong.

(((hugs)))

Caitlin

Thinkingtoomuch posted 10/14/2013 12:46 PM

Prayers on their way, Skan. Good luck. So much stress!

authenticnow posted 10/14/2013 12:55 PM

(((Skan)))

I'm going to move this to OT for you, so you can get support in the appropriate forum.

jo2love posted 10/14/2013 13:03 PM

Sending mojo and prayers.

lost_in_toronto posted 10/14/2013 13:15 PM

Mojo sent, to you and your FWH.

tushnurse posted 10/14/2013 13:21 PM

Mojo on it's way.

((((and strength))))

catlover50 posted 10/14/2013 14:02 PM

Thinking of you both today.

Deeply Scared posted 10/14/2013 14:07 PM

Good thoughts to you both.