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nowiknow23 posted 10/14/2013 13:22 PM

I wrote a few months ago that my mom is receiving hospice care. This morning, on the advice of the hospice staff, my dad made the heartbreaking decision to withdraw future feeding and let mom go.

I am spending today sitting by mom's bedside, holding her hand, and reassuring her that it's ok to let go. It may be a week or two before she passes, or this may be my last moments with her. Either way, nothing has been left unsaid, and I am at peace.

Or so I think. My heart has a different opinion, it seems.

Myname posted 10/14/2013 13:25 PM

I'm sorry NIK. (((())))

boontje posted 10/14/2013 13:26 PM

((((NIK))))

MovingUpward posted 10/14/2013 13:28 PM

(((NIK)))

lost_in_toronto posted 10/14/2013 13:30 PM

(((nik)))

woundedby2 posted 10/14/2013 13:32 PM

I'm so sorry, NIK. I was in a similar place 2 years ago.

Enjoy the precious little time you have left to hold her hand.

(((((biggest hugs)))))

gma56 posted 10/14/2013 13:34 PM

(((NIK and family)))

The heart is never in the same place as what has to be done during such difficult moments. She knows you are there and you love her, that is enough. She's OK because she knows her family loves her and are there with her.
Sending strength and prayers.
Gma

Exit Wounds posted 10/14/2013 13:37 PM

(((((NIK))))) my dad just died so I know what you are going through. May I make a suggestion? Can you tell your mom:"Mom, I forgive you for everything."

I didn't have a chance to tell my dad before he died. But I did tell him afterwards. -I think they need to hear us say it to them. I know they try their best but I bet they feel they let us down at times...

tushnurse posted 10/14/2013 13:38 PM

(((NIK)))

I am so happy that you have been afforded the opportunity to make this lsat bit of time with her peaceful.

((((and peace, and strengthto you and your family))))

Undefinabl3 posted 10/14/2013 13:41 PM

(((NIK)))

I get this. It was the same with my grandmothers and while I found questions later, at the time, they knew the important stuff and I knew they loved me, which was really all that mattered.

I still talk to them alot. In the car, on a walk, and in a pinch I just say WWGD?

What would Grama's Do?...cause they were the smartest, sweetest, nicest women you would never want to piss off

I am so sorry this is happening. I am praying for you and your family.

ThoughtIKnewYa posted 10/14/2013 13:44 PM

(((nik)))

TattoodChinaDoll posted 10/14/2013 13:46 PM

((((NIK)))) Prayers for the whole family.

ajsmom posted 10/14/2013 13:47 PM

My prayers for all of you.

I remember these moments with my mom. Truly treasured moments that brought me much peace. My prayer is that is what you experience as well.

(((nik & family)))

AJ's MOM

MissesJai posted 10/14/2013 13:47 PM

(((NIK)))

I'm glad you are at peace.

sinsof thefather posted 10/14/2013 13:50 PM

((((NIK))))

Prayers going up for you and your whole family.

confused615 posted 10/14/2013 13:51 PM

((((((((((NIK))))))))))

jo2love posted 10/14/2013 13:54 PM

(((Nik)))

Amazonia posted 10/14/2013 13:56 PM

(((NIK & family)))

jjsr posted 10/14/2013 13:56 PM

Sending good thoughts to you and your parents and family

woundedwidow posted 10/14/2013 14:08 PM

My prayers are with you, your Mom, and your family. I wish I had had the chance to say "goodbye" to my Mom; those are such precious moments. (((NIK)))