Felt like this for me, too. SAWH in a MC session said to me "Your eyes look beautiful today." And I rolled my eyes and therapist corrected me and said I should have responded with "Thank you." But as you all know, cheaters lie and it's safe to assume, especially in the early weeks after DD, that they are still lying.
It's very difficult to accept that they honestly think they still love you. And Betrayed2x, I am in the same boat...I feel like 1/2 of the reason why H wants to stay is because of the kids and another 45% of it is because he doesn't want to have to divide up 50%+++ of everything we've accumulated, change his life, etc.
When do we get to feel like we matter (other than as caregivers, housekeepers, cooks, need fillers?) . I haven't felt like I have mattered in a long time. Somehow reading your post makes me feel better that I am not alone.
[This message edited by womaninflux at 8:14 PM, October 14th (Monday)]