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Ashland13 (original poster member #38378) posted at 1:12 AM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
We have a young friend in the same boat as DD is, his father left abruptly a few years ago. Today we had him come visit and they spent time playing in the leaves and making crafts. It was pleasant to hear laughter of children resounding through the yard, as it once did.
This little boy came up to me at one point when I stopped being busy and said, "here." In his fist he had a bracelet that he made for me and he gave me one of the biggest hugs I've had since DD's birthday a long while ago.
This was the sweetest, briefest moment in time but I found myself almost clinging to this boy and giving silent thanks for his remembrance of me.
He then held up his other hand and in it, he had a matching bracelet that he had just finished. He smiled brightly and said, "this is for my mom. My dad left too. So I made these for the alone moms who are so nice to me."
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Ashland 13
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.
-George Washington
tesla ( member #34697) posted at 1:32 AM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
Very sweet moment. Brought tears to my eyes.
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
Bebba1171 ( member #33857) posted at 1:41 AM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
Amazing. Thanks for sharing..
Divorced by Interlocutory decree in May 2012. WW had an affair with a 66 yo doctor she worked for.
D-Day Sept 16. 2011.
BH- 54Me) / XWW 52
Two great kids that don't deserve this!
pregnantandsad ( member #40141) posted at 1:56 AM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
This made me cry. What a sweet boy. I am so glad you had a good moment today. I am positive there are many more to come.
M 7 years, together for 12
2 kids- DD5 & DD 1 1/2
D-Day 7/2013 - Divorced!
Iamhappytoday ( member #39051) posted at 3:31 AM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
Aw!
(((Ashland)))
Made me teary, in a good way.
BW 39
WH 34
2DD's 15 months at start
Together 10 years, M 9
OW 22 CW, 2kids by 2 men & youngest less than 1 when affair started.
Dday 1 8/16/12 "just texting"
TT, gaslighting, denial; was always PA; he left me for her. Divorced 8/11/15
Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 4:42 AM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
Awwww....that melts the heart! What a sweet boy!
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
dmari ( member #37215) posted at 5:53 AM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
What a wonderful moment! Beautiful! He is going to treat his wife like a queen one day. Thank you for sharing!
LAFA ( member #31868) posted at 11:00 AM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
What a great little guy! So happy to hear this.
When you put someone on a pedestal, they quickly learn two things. The view is mighty good from up there, and it is a fine vantage from which to kick.
thenon-goddess ( member #31229) posted at 11:08 AM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
*tears* What a sweet boy.
(((Ashland)))
SBB ( member #35229) posted at 11:46 AM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
Ah shit Ashland. Good god woman I'm crying over here.
Bless his sweet, sweet heart. I love those sparkle moments in life.
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
Pass ( member #38122) posted at 5:07 PM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
That's a great kid. You're lucky to know him, and I feel lucky to have heard about him.
Divorced the cheater and living my best life now.
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous.
Secrets Kept ( member #40630) posted at 8:03 PM on Thursday, October 17th, 2013
WOW.....what an angel!!!
I am literally sitting in my office at work crying over your post.
It is so sad that children go through their own issues with this crap. Are you & his mom by chance friends? Sounds like a good opportunity to have someone close who totally understands a spouse up & leaving.
What a sweet little boy!!! 
"All this time I was finding myself & I didn't know I was lost"
lieshurt ( member #14003) posted at 8:10 PM on Thursday, October 17th, 2013
Please give that sweet boy a hug from all of us.
No one changes unless they want to. Not if you beg them. Not if you shame them. Not if you use reason, emotion, or tough love. There is only one thing that makes someone change: their own realization that they need to.
Bluebird26 ( member #36445) posted at 1:25 PM on Friday, October 18th, 2013
oh that is so sweet, what a lovely gentle young man. Glad you got to share that moment with him.
Me: BW
Best thing I gained in my divorce - my freedom.
Life's good.
Ashland13 (original poster member #38378) posted at 2:25 PM on Friday, October 18th, 2013
To answer some questions...
Yes, the mom has been a pillar since XPerv left. She came the first day and has been something of a rock ever since. She's helped me through many a meltdown or given advice.
She has the tallest, pointiest bitch boots I've ever, ever known.
And, she's one of the people who caught XPerv in the first place-and the only one who told me she caught him cheating.
What's sad too is to hear that the little boy's father and family fight over him, but not in a pawn sort of way-they yell at him and threaten him with "don't tell mom's", so he's almost afraid to be with the brother alone who's a teenager and in mega trouble.
My heart breaks for him as it does for DD and the words and concepts these kids know because of infidelity are just not things kids barely puberty age should know!
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Ashland 13
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.
-George Washington
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