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Topic: Bittersweet Moments
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Ashland13
♀ 38378
Member # 38378 |  Posted: 7:12 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013 |     |
We have a young friend in the same boat as DD is, his father left abruptly a few years ago. Today we had him come visit and they spent time playing in the leaves and making crafts. It was pleasant to hear laughter of children resounding through the yard, as it once did.
This little boy came up to me at one point when I stopped being busy and said, "here." In his fist he had a bracelet that he made for me and he gave me one of the biggest hugs I've had since DD's birthday a long while ago.
This was the sweetest, briefest moment in time but I found myself almost clinging to this boy and giving silent thanks for his remembrance of me.
He then held up his other hand and in it, he had a matching bracelet that he had just finished. He smiled brightly and said, "this is for my mom. My dad left too. So I made these for the alone moms who are so nice to me." [This message edited by Ashland13 at 7:13 PM, October 14th (Monday)]
Ashland 13
You gave me nothing and now it's all I've got - Bono
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.
-George Washington
Posts: 2524 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England |
tesla
♀ 34697
Member # 34697 | | Posted: 7:32 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013 | |
Very sweet moment. Brought tears to my eyes.
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
Posts: 4956 | Registered: Jan 2012 |
Bebba1171
♂ 33857
Member # 33857 | | Posted: 7:41 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013 | |
Amazing. Thanks for sharing..
Divorced by Interlocutory decree in May 2012. WW had an affair with a 66 yo doctor she worked for.
D-Day Sept 16. 2011.
BH- 54Me) / XWW 52
Two great kids that don't deserve this!
Posts: 734 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: Western Kentucky |
pregnantandsad
♀ 40141
Member # 40141 | | Posted: 7:56 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013 | |
This made me cry. What a sweet boy. I am so glad you had a good moment today. I am positive there are many more to come.
M 7 years, together for 12
2 kids- DD4 and a newborn
D-Day 7/2013 he didn't want R and moved in with OW
Filed for D, almost done!
Posts: 155 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: California |
Iamhappytoday
♀ 39051
Member # 39051 | | Posted: 9:31 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013 | |
Aw!
(((Ashland)))
Made me teary, in a good way.
BW 39
WH 34
2DD's 15 months at start
Together 10 years, M 9
OW 22 CW, 2kids by 2 men & youngest less than 1 when affair started.
Dday 1 8/16/12 "just texting"
TT, gaslighting, denial; was always PA; he left me for her.
Posts: 154 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Free!!! |
Phoenix1
♀ 38928
Member # 38928 | | Posted: 10:42 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013 | |
Awwww....that melts the heart! What a sweet boy!
BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 23,18 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013
This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet
Posts: 1379 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes! |
dmari
♀ 37215
Member # 37215 | | Posted: 11:53 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013 | |
What a wonderful moment! Beautiful! He is going to treat his wife like a queen one day. Thank you for sharing!
Me (BS): 43 Children: DD 19, DS 16
Divorced September 30, 2014
"It's always darkest before the dawn ..."
Posts: 2460 | Registered: Oct 2012 |
LAFA
♂ 31868
Member # 31868 | | Posted: 5:00 AM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013 | |
What a great little guy! So happy to hear this.
When you put someone on a pedestal, they quickly learn two things. The view is mighty good from up there, and it is a fine vantage from which to kick.
Posts: 247 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From: Hawaii |
thenon-goddess
♀ 31229
Member # 31229 | | Posted: 5:08 AM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013 | |
*tears* What a sweet boy.
(((Ashland)))
Status: divorcing - I can see the light at the end of the tunnel!
Posts: 1267 | Registered: Feb 2011 |
SBB
♀ 35229
Member # 35229 | | Posted: 5:46 AM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013 | |
Ah shit Ashland. Good god woman I'm crying over here.
Bless his sweet, sweet heart. I love those sparkle moments in life.
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
Posts: 5843 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia |
Pass
♂ 38122
Member # 38122 | | Posted: 11:07 AM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013 | |
That's a great kid. You're lucky to know him, and I feel lucky to have heard about him.
Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous
Posts: 2158 | Registered: Jan 2013 |
Secrets Kept
♀ 40630
Member # 40630 | | Posted: 2:03 PM, October 17th (Thursday), 2013 | |
WOW.....what an angel!!!
I am literally sitting in my office at work crying over your post.
It is so sad that children go through their own issues with this crap. Are you & his mom by chance friends? Sounds like a good opportunity to have someone close who totally understands a spouse up & leaving.
What a sweet little boy!!! 
Marriage #1=BW-46 (now)
XWH-Deceased on his 36 bday
Divorced in 1996
Marriage #2= Married in 2003
H-44
2 kids together-DS14 & DD12
"All this time I was finding myself & I didn't know I was lost"
Posts: 242 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Midwest USA |
lieshurt
♀ 14003
Member # 14003 | | Posted: 2:10 PM, October 17th (Thursday), 2013 | |
Please give that sweet boy a hug from all of us.
A relationship without trust is like a car without gas. You can stay in it all you want, but it won't go anywhere.
Posts: 14015 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Houston |
Bluebird26
♀ 36445
Member # 36445 | | Posted: 7:25 AM, October 18th (Friday), 2013 | |
oh that is so sweet, what a lovely gentle young man. Glad you got to share that moment with him.
Me: BW
Best thing I gained in my divorce - my freedom.
Life's good.
Posts: 1452 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia |
Ashland13
♀ 38378
Member # 38378 | | Posted: 8:25 AM, October 18th (Friday), 2013 | |
To answer some questions...
Yes, the mom has been a pillar since XPerv left. She came the first day and has been something of a rock ever since. She's helped me through many a meltdown or given advice.
She has the tallest, pointiest bitch boots I've ever, ever known.
And, she's one of the people who caught XPerv in the first place-and the only one who told me she caught him cheating.
What's sad too is to hear that the little boy's father and family fight over him, but not in a pawn sort of way-they yell at him and threaten him with "don't tell mom's", so he's almost afraid to be with the brother alone who's a teenager and in mega trouble.
My heart breaks for him as it does for DD and the words and concepts these kids know because of infidelity are just not things kids barely puberty age should know!
[This message edited by Ashland13 at 8:27 AM, October 18th (Friday)]
Ashland 13
You gave me nothing and now it's all I've got - Bono
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.
-George Washington
Posts: 2524 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England |
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