He wants to stay married, and gets angry if I bring up all of his infidelities.
Yep, rugsweeping and a desire to cake eat. Part of the cheater's bag of tricks. I could still be 'happily' married if I never mentioned any of his affairs and allowed him to continue on about his cheating business. I ruined everything, don't cha know! That left me with a choice. Accept an open marriage and never question it, or kick his ass to the curb because I am worth more than that. I chose to end it even though I was constantly second guessing my decision in the beginning. However I knew emphatically what I did NOT want.
You are doing the right thing if you have reached your limit. He has shown you that he has no remorse and has no intention of changing his behavior. Hang tough!
he said the problem was that we had different levels of risk tolerance
Well that would have been just dandy if his health was the only one at risk. What an ass!
This arsehole is saying that everybody's life would be better if you would just let him walk all over you. You are allowed to disagree.
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous!
he said the problem was that we had different levels of risk tolerance.
He keeps insisting that he has always loved me and it would have been fine if I hadn't found out.