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User Topic: Non-smokers - obsess much?
click4it
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Default  Posted: 10:32 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It'll be 4 months since I quit on the 16th.

During that time, I've tried to find other things to "distract" me.

Only problem is that I'm finding I am obsessing more than distracting.

I am becoming a work-aholic, a facebook aholic, a food aholic, a candy crush aholic, ....I guess it could be worse right>???


Me: 42
Two boys: 17 and 14
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 11:06 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Right. I think it's a bit of a pendulum swing at this point, click. It will even out in time. ((((hugs))))


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― Pema Chödrön


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MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 7:52 AM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think NIK is right in the pendulum theory.

In the mean time I think you should try becoming a cooking-a-holic and you can make cookies to send to all your SI friends.


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click4it
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Default  Posted: 7:18 PM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

NIK - you could be spot on...I just want some balance back...I'm feeling a little on the nutty side.

MU - sure and then I can gain even more weight than I have already while eating all the cookies and not have enough to send out.


Me: 42
Two boys: 17 and 14
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?


Posts: 25649 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: California
Jennifer99
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Default  Posted: 10:13 AM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think you learned your non-smoking lesson so well now you see it everywhere.

For me it was backwards. I thought "OMG I play WAY too much mafia wars....", "Jeesh, if I spend anymore time doing _________" THEN I quit.

Now I see how much anything can become a habit if you are using it as distraction.

I've stopped looking for distractions (smoke free since 10/4, not as long as you) and started dealing with why I felt I needed a distraction - whether it be cig or game or whatever.


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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 10:41 AM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's a good point Clicky

I always found the Nurses that were just obnoxious about preaching to their patients about the detriments of smoking and getting them to stop were former smokers.

I don't beat people up about it, I get that you won't stop until you make up your mind, you know it's bad for you, you know the dangers (unless you live under a rock). I just say it's bad for you, you should stop, and move onto the next 6 issues.


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Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
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