My oldest will be 14 on the 1st. The last few months hes been hanging around some really terrible friends. We have been trying to keep him away from these kids but I know I cant watch over him at school. Hes been caught doing so many stupid things lately.
He was caught with weed in his room....3 times
Hes been trading out his stuff for other peoples stuff without consent from us, the parents who paid for his things.
He admitted to drinking a few times
He leaves and doesn't tell us then acts like he was right outside the house when we know he wasn't
The above is an example of him lying, which has become pretty habitual
I found an E-Cig in his room
Hes got money hidden all over his room and idk where it all came from. He does work on the weekends with one of the Hs best friends but that's another thing Ill get to below
He punched a hole in the wall, then punched it worse twice more so all the money hes making now he is giving us to pay for the wall repairs...that's why I don't know where the extra money is coming from
We found a can of spray paint in his room in a drawer with a painted Frisbee and a new towel that was obviously used during the painting of said Frisbee
H found burns on his bed sheets and various lighters all over his room
Found what looks to be cigarette sprinklings, like the stuff left in the bottom of the pack
Hes been caught sneaking out of his window
His grades are slowly slipping even though hes at school everyday and hes not usually a bad student
I'm heartbroken over the way hes been behaving. Hes such a talented athlete and a good, smart kid. I want to move him to a smaller town away from all his bad influence friends. If he doesn't get his grades up he wont be able to wrestle this season and baseball will be a whole other ordeal in the spring time. The only good friend he seems to have in his life his GF who is constantly riding his ass to straighten up.
He currently grounded until he repays all the money for the damages hes caused.
I want to think this is normal teenage behavior. He started up like this after 7th grade and worse when 8th grade started. Hes got the whole jock, popular, top dog of the school mentality. Hes the oldest and mean to his brothers all the time. Hes on ADHD meds but wont take them, I found them in the freaking dog food this morning, when he takes his meds he cuts out all the bad behavior.
Im at such a loss, I almost think I need to take him in to his doctor to see if she can help steer me in the right direction. We are going to start randomly drug testing him as well since we found weed in his room.