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sodamnlost posted 10/15/2013 08:02 AM

So WH met with out pastor last week. Yeah - he waited a whole year to do that but I digress. I decided to go with him yesterday. I had a specific question regarding handling a part of this process (preparing for divorce basically) biblically. Of course out pastor's goal is to save our marriage. He knows where I am and why. He gets if WH doesn't change I'm not safe. But still he is biased.

Anyways - at one point he tells WH he HAS to get the whole truth of the affair out. He said "except THOSE details - she doesn't need to know those." I corrected him by saying I did in fact need those details. If I didn't have those details I would make up stuff like they had "crazy, monkey porn sex". OMGosh!! Who says that to their pastor?!?!!

Bad part is it took me like 12 hours to even realize what I said! Lol! Good thing my pastor isn't a stuffy one.

That meeting was SO hard for me - had to share the funny part so I don't dwell in that pain.

Edited for typo

[This message edited by sodamnlost at 8:10 AM, October 15th (Tuesday)]

MovingUpward posted 10/15/2013 08:06 AM

at the make up stuff comment

I am glad that you got through that meeting.

tushnurse posted 10/15/2013 09:26 AM

That is awesome that you have the type of relationship with your pastor that you can say what you are really thinking.

So many people put on a false face in front of their church leaders, and do not present who they really are. Some leaders don't make it feel safe to be open and honest either, that helps no one.

Glad you are seeins some positive movement for you.

DixieD posted 10/15/2013 09:57 AM

SDL, you were being authentic and standing up for yourself. Nothing wrong with that.

Mr. Kite posted 10/15/2013 11:35 AM

I've been in ministry since 97, and with my pastor for over 10 years. He's 70 years old and a former drug dealer who's seen and heard it all. He would be amused by your comment.

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