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sodamnlost (original poster member #37190) posted at 2:02 PM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
So WH met with out pastor last week. Yeah - he waited a whole year to do that but I digress. I decided to go with him yesterday. I had a specific question regarding handling a part of this process (preparing for divorce basically) biblically. Of course out pastor's goal is to save our marriage. He knows where I am and why. He gets if WH doesn't change I'm not safe. But still he is biased.
Anyways - at one point he tells WH he HAS to get the whole truth of the affair out. He said "except THOSE details - she doesn't need to know those." I corrected him by saying I did in fact need those details. If I didn't have those details I would make up stuff like they had "crazy, monkey porn sex". OMGosh!! Who says that to their pastor?!?!! 
Bad part is it took me like 12 hours to even realize what I said! Lol! Good thing my pastor isn't a stuffy one.
That meeting was SO hard for me - had to share the funny part so I don't dwell in that pain.
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[This message edited by sodamnlost at 8:10 AM, October 15th (Tuesday)]
Me - BS original Dday 10-2012, separated June 2014, divorce Fall 2016
Grief, loss and pain taunt her - "you will never be the same." Like a Phoenix rising from the ashes, she rises and spreads her new wings as she brushes off the ashes an
MovingUpward ( member #14866) posted at 2:06 PM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
at the make up stuff comment
I am glad that you got through that meeting.
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 3:26 PM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
That is awesome that you have the type of relationship with your pastor that you can say what you are really thinking.
So many people put on a false face in front of their church leaders, and do not present who they really are. Some leaders don't make it feel safe to be open and honest either, that helps no one.
Glad you are seeins some positive movement for you.
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
DixieD ( member #33457) posted at 3:57 PM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
SDL, you were being authentic and standing up for yourself. Nothing wrong with that. 
Mr. Kite ( member #28840) posted at 5:35 PM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
I've been in ministry since 97, and with my pastor for over 10 years. He's 70 years old and a former drug dealer who's seen and heard it all. He would be amused by your comment.
I can't tell you what to do, but I can tell you what not to do.
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