I always knew he would never "settle" for that, and I was right.
I have neighbors that are good friends of mine. I have another neighbor that we all call either "he-man" or "Dbag". He-man has a son that is in the same class as the Bunt. They went to the Bday party that FT threw for Bunt, and guess they got to talking, and FT asked He-man to watch me...
He-man stupidly told the neighbor that I am good friends with all about it, and that he is spying on me for FT, because FT fully intends to take me back to court to get the Bunt.
No shocker... I'll never forget his words of "I will stop at NOTHING to get my son from you"
Bunt is seven... so let's see... I only have... 11 more years of always looking over my shoulder. So much fun.
I would also subpoena He-man and have him asked on the stand if he was approached and "hired" or asked by FT to obtain "dirt". That won't look good.
The thing is, I'm a great mom. He's fishing in an empty pond.
See, the thing is... with an ex like yours he will never stop trying to get the upper hand. Even after Bunt turns 18 he will still do the same thing. Only then it will be to pressure Bunt for primary allegiance. Every holiday will become a contest. Every big event will require that Bunt put his father in a place of getting attention and credit. It won't ever end with someone like him. I'm sorry for that.
"We're not broken, just bent, and we can learn to love again" ~Pink
My XWH and the OW "watch" me all the time, drive by all the time, I have pictures of XWH sitting on the sidestreet "watching" my house. There isn't a damn thing I can do about it until they break the law, and according to the law, they can drive down any street they choose, they can park on any sidestreet they want to.
I hate it, I want to move, but I'm kind of stuck in my house right now.
Let them look. There's nothing to see.
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.
You do an amazing job with a kiddo that requires so much added extra attention, and work. He couldn't even begin to handle what you do. Bunt is with you because he is supposed to be. Let him watch, maybe he will learn something, I doubt it, but we can hope.
Hang in there, and just smile and wave.
I only have... 11 more years of always looking over my shoulder.
Nope
He's fishing in an empty pond.
Live your life to the best of your ability. Enjoy it without looking over your shoulder, the view to the front is so much better. Especially without FT in the view. Don't give him the head space.
Short of you beating your son or becoming a drug addict, the possibility of a judge reversing custody is slight.
Strength
No protective order?
My advice remains. Yes with the caveat that you can't control FT's actions. You need to show Bunt how to enjoy life though.
Sending strength and much Mojo.
Like 545, I'm amazed there weren't consequences from his previous actions like the court denying unsupervised visitation. Was the law involved? Unbelievable! ((((Ssm))). Let them watch and maybe learn what he should be doing.
Seriously, I would have some fun with this. He is going to get absolutely nowhere, but wouldn't it be a hoot to help him get there?
My ex has intermittently watched my abode for years. I have always wanted to find a friend who was willing to leave his high end car in my drive for a few days.
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Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013 Divorced 11/18/2014
Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.
To those being 'watched' by their Xs, wouldn't anti-stalking laws apply? Or am I just being naive.
For me, it's even worse because XWH and OW work for the town PD, and at times, these drive-by's just happen to occur in their work vehicles, while they're working. They just happen to be driving back from a call in the area . I can't do a damn thing. I wanted to text them and be like "are there no other streets you can drive down in this town?" But I don't want to feed their egos.
