Thanks for the replies... I really appreciate it. I talk to her at least a few times a week, though she is not always excited about being on the phone--- even when she is with me and has to call her mom, so I don't take it personally. My employer is awesome, and I work overtime every other week and use the hours for time off to see her. I see her EOW for three days, and I am trying to make the best of it for now. My STBXWW is usually good about maintaining contact, but likes to torture me sometimes but not responding to my "goodnight texts"- I draw a little picture on an app on my phone and text it to DD every night so she knows I am thinking about her. Drawing together is something we have always done since she was little. My wife, like most narcissistic, unremorseful, deluded and angry POS WS's can be vindictive.. "oh we fell asleep so she didn't see your text, we were watching a movie, DD was at the neighbor's (so I could go fuck my loser AP)..." Very hurtful and infuriating. It sickens me to think of what my daughter has been and probably will be exposed to.
I really am at a loss right now emotionally because this has been so hard. My WW can go to hell, but my DD... she is actually getting me through this. I just can't believe I will never wake up with her every morning, read to her every night, etc.
In my divorce filing I did state I am going for custody, but it will be uphill and I am not sure how traumatic for my DD-- she is close to her mom. She was however exposed to my WW's adultery in a most explicit way, I'll leave it at that. The OM does have quite the criminal history (no felonies though) and as I stated before my WW is doing a shit job of homeschooling. I am going to nip THAT in the bud. I would like to get my daughter back up here with me, and perhaps getting her in school down there may hurt my chances at custody but I will not sacrifice my DD's future. I will be closer to her soon, one way or the other. I just need to sort out this financial mess and decide my course of action in regards to custody. The custody/visitation is temporary and just between me and WW right now. My WW is terrified of me taking her to court... she has a lot of explaining to do. She vacillates from being nice to the nastiest so-and-so I ever imagined. She really wants to rush in to mediation, but I am letting my lawyer guide me-- she is good. My WW doesn't have counsel yet.
This whole thing is a real bitch.
Thanks for the great suggestions-- I like the stamped envelopes idea! I am looking at getting her a tablet to use for Skype as well.
[This message edited by coldshot at 11:45 PM, October 16th (Wednesday)]