Are any of your waywards using the same justification techniques to reconcile as they did to have the affair?
My WH is seeing nothing but a horrible experience with the affair now and a whorible person to do it with.
When he started the affair, I was the horrible person driving him to it. Nothing was good with me.
He is seeing now that it is him, not "it" or me, but it is concerning me that maybe he is distorting facts to get what he wants, still.