BS - Me
DD16 and I were talking last night and she was telling me how disgusted she was with all her teen peers (girls) that she feels are too stupid to get through life without assistance (her words, not mine). I told her one of my goals with all of my kids has been to nurture and develop well-adjusted, grounded, independent and capable future adults. She then went on with an eye-roll story about her friend that had no idea what a flat-head screwdriver was. I told her that was really sad and I was glad she (DD16) was becoming a very independent young lady. I told her that independence would serve her very well as an adult and I didn't want her to ever feel "dependent" on another human being and, heaven forbid, if she ever found herself in my current situation with her father that she would not collapse into a ball and cry and wonder how she will ever go on without someone else to take care of her. She smiled and said for me not to worry as that will never happen as I taught her well...
Made my heart proud. She also said she remembers how often her father would say to me, "you're the strongest person I have ever known" yet he is acting surprised that I am quite capable of standing on my own two feet and don't need him. DD said she intends to have that same strength.
That is one of the best life lessons she could learn from this mess. She knows it does not mean I don't have emotions and am not hurt from what POS has done (she has seen me cry when I didn't think she was looking), but she is learning to hold her head high with dignity in the face of horrific adversity. I am so proud of her!
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 23,18 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013
This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet