Topic: My observations about SI posters
Member # 39169
| Posted: 4:11 PM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013|
We cross all demographics. Appearance is meaningless. We span the globe. We are compassionate - offering hope, advice, kindness, and understanding to people we've never met. We are resilient - weather facing R or facing D, they both require the courage of lions. We are funny - even in the throes of heartache, I get a good laugh almost every time I read here. We are pretty stinkin awesome. So thanks SI community, you are the best 41,000 friends I could ask for
This is my positive thought for the week. I'll be back tomorrow, crying and frustrated
40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013
Time is a great healer but a terrible beautician.
Posts: 854 | Registered: May 2013
Member # 31528
| Posted: 4:12 PM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013|
I agree. We have an amazing group of members here.
[This message edited by SI Staff at 4:13 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)]
Posts: 43592 | Registered: Mar 2011
Member # 33128
| Posted: 4:12 PM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013|
DD 21 and DS 16
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
Separated again June 2014. Heading toward divorce.
False R. Still Lying.
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is all you have left"
Posts: 2943 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 40268
| Posted: 4:14 PM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013|
Ditto. And ditto to the last part too
"respect? you don't deserve it, you won't get any from me unless you earn it"
Posts: 958 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: nyc
Member # 2
| Posted: 4:34 PM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013|
Without a doubt we have the very best members out there!! Compassionate, smart, loving, funny and some of the most colorful words I've ever read
We (Staff) appreciate each and every one of you!!
I've said it over and over in the past...but it's true.
My mother always said a party is only as good as the people that show up.
Well, look around...we are surrounded by great people
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
Posts: 206619 | Registered: May 2002
Member # 40617
| Posted: 4:35 PM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013|
LOVE your Post. Can completely relate to everything you said.
Here's hoping tomorrow is a good day for all of us, and the next, and the next ... ... It's an uphill battle with many twists, turns and stumbling blocks - and it sure is a journey I never anticipated. Good luck to us ALL
Posts: 95 | Registered: Sep 2013
Member # 25001
| Posted: 5:07 PM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013|
Fantastic post! They're are a lot of amazing people here.
Me - BS, 40 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS11, DD8
Getting my ducks in a row for divorce... finally (4+ D-Days too many - listed in profile.)
Posts: 6115 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
Member # 30631
| Posted: 5:09 PM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013|
In R since shortly after DD.
Discovered what was right in front of him and nearly lost.
Always, tell the other BS! Always!
"It's hard to be in love when you can't tell lies"!
Posts: 917 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Northeast
Member # 36622
| Posted: 5:14 PM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013|
fWS 37 (SurprisinglyOkay)
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"
Posts: 2857 | Registered: Aug 2012
Member # 40769
| Posted: 5:21 PM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013|
Love this post and thank you for saying it.
Knowing I have a place to come that's full of honest good wishes and the occasional 2 x 4 ( also given with good wishes).
Word cannot express my gratitude for ALL of you.
Take care of you. Then worry about your M.
Me- FBS 40
Him- FWS 37
DD- 14 and DS- 13
NC broken from August 6- 24, 2013
full truth: November 14, 2013
A: 3 months
Working on R
Posts: 953 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: East Coast
Member # 38384
| Posted: 5:22 PM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013|
Love your post TT!
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear
Posts: 3421 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
Member # 36711
| Posted: 5:35 PM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013|
Good post. I totally agree!
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.
Posts: 1292 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Sunny Florida
Member # 40568
| Posted: 6:06 PM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013|
Great post, TT!
While I'd certainly rather have met you all under different circumstances, I'm so very grateful to have found such a warm, welcoming community. That so many people in so much pain can be this compassionate is truly amazing.
My eternal gratitude to all who share here and to the founders and mods who make this place so special. I hope you understand what a difference you've made in so many lives.
M 9 years
second marriage, second WH
4 kids in their 20s, none together
I have no idea whether we will D or R at this point.
Posts: 424 | Registered: Sep 2013
Member # 30989
| Posted: 7:33 PM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013|
WH (Trac-fone), 54, PD
2 kids-DD27, DS19
When we are no longer able to change a situation - we are challenged to change ourselves.--Viktor Frankl
Posts: 12660 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
Member # 35812
| Posted: 7:56 PM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013|
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
Posts: 6602 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
Member # 22870
| Posted: 8:01 PM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013|
Yep. Such a wonderful group.
I'm sorry for our circumstances, but so glad to have this group to support me.
I didn't find SI until after my D was final, but I really didn't begin to take control of my destiny until I came here.
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
Posts: 8671 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
Member # 40393
| Posted: 8:03 PM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013|
So grateful to each and every one of you. Your stories, courage, feelings, advice, etc. etc. are an inspiration
WH: 51 pro cake-eater, NPD, SA
Married almost 34 years
D-Days 3-4-12, 8-19-12 (EA, probably PA)porn,ashleymadison, etc, etc
4 sons, 3 daughters
Divorcing - finally
Posts: 145 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Utah
Member # 33226
| Posted: 8:10 PM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013|
You can call me NIK
"The dark does not destroy the light; it defines it." - Brene Brown
Posts: 34503 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 20150
| Posted: 8:17 PM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013|
Oh hell yeah.
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
Posts: 19123 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Member # 39707
| Posted: 10:36 PM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013|
I'm no where near where I want to be but I am that much closer because of this place :-))
Him: doesn't matter anymore
D-day 14 June 2013
I'm smart, good looking and gosh darn it, people like me!
Posts: 320 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: trying to figure it out
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