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User Topic: Big Blowout
♀ 38378
Member # 38378
Default  Posted: 7:33 PM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just want to throw up.

Putting OW on the phone is continuing and in true narc style, xPervert s saying "It's DD, she keeps asking." I'm not sleeping again so that's my excuse for breaking NC-2 x 4 please-but when people mess with my kids, I have trouble just being quiet.

They are confusing DD now and selling her this rainbow world and accusing me of eavesdropping-now, we have an open floor plan house and DD talks really loud, so there's no need to eavesdrop and I don't even want to know anyway or hear the voices-but his narcissistic self likes to think I wouldn't have anything else to do.

So anyway, apparently they took huge offense at my request and are steamrolling me again, telling me "it's my time with DD, butt out."

So next lawyer conversation I will ask him but likely get nowhere.

Two days ago this man brought me a coffee and toast and told me how "I just want to make your life easier."

They are gearing up to have DD go there -I think this week -and I think that's the change in attitude and I think OW is getting brassier as divorce gets closer.

I'm also talking about possibly leaving the state temporarily so that may have his back up, but really?

This was the good part. Then he says how "disrespected THEY were!!!???" by me? for telling DD when the time limit was done.

I'm kind of worrying sometimes that they'll try to take her away again, I don't put anything past them and they probably will be trying to cite me for alienation of affection, just for asking for some guidelines and respect. I don't think this is going away easily, but if I can get back to crickets, maybe that will help.

And the baby's colicky, so that's one more peg in the wall.

I shouldn't be surprised at how quickly XPervert got nasty-like, snarly. I'm just rambling but won't be surprised if there's a lawyer letter this week. He's got a cheesy one who will complain if I ask XPervert to do the rules like be on time.

Thanks, everybody. I'm having a bad reaction to this and feeling sick to my stomach.

Ashland 13

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington

Posts: 3034 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
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Default  Posted: 11:13 AM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Ashland)))) I hope things are looking better this morning, honey.
Two days ago this man brought me a coffee and toast and told me how "I just want to make your life easier."
This actually makes the hair on the back of my neck stand up. With that guy, "making your life easier" could be code for "taking the kids off your hands."

Shields up, honey.

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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♀ 38378
Member # 38378
Default  Posted: 2:31 PM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's my worry, NIK. That's my worry. And maybe why he's stuck to an OW like glue? So as to prove he has a "fit home". Uggh.

Ashland 13

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington

Posts: 3034 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
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Default  Posted: 3:52 PM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"disrespected THEY were!!!???" by me?

Crazy people say crazy stuff. I repeat this to myself often after every "WTF!?" statement from my ex. Even conversations about finances and kids are all over the place and include nonsense with these idiots.

Sometimes I picture my ex as a mental patient shouting out insane things that pop into him mind and acting on whatever impulse he feels. Like someone with a severe mental disorder, truth and reality don't have much of an effect on his actions and words.

Don't let him bully you into silence when it comes to speaking up for your children. That soulless POS seems to be constantly testing you on your new (necessary!) boundaries. That is hard with a full nights sleep, I can't imagine dealing with him while adjusting to live with a newborn. ((((Ashland))) If you can, let your lawyer or do the talking and keep his dark energy out of your house as much as you can.

Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013

Posts: 541 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: USA
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Default  Posted: 9:30 AM, October 17th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would do like you said and try to get some boundaries set in a court order. I would even get it so that he can only call so many times a week and at certain times.

Btw, my son had colic. Get some gas drops. I got a script from the kids doctor and they worked really good.

You can also put a piece of peppermint in the bottle with warm water just warm enough to dissolve it. My kids grandmother told me about that. It helped some until I could get my son in to see the doctor.

Another thing you can do is put the baby up to your chest, facing a way from you. So his back is touching your chest.Then hold his legs up right under his knees. It will help relieve some of the gas.

I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.

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