We're trying to R. Some days are good, some are bad.
Today, he goes into my phone and blocks all contact information for an ex of mine. He had a couple of reasons.
First, he felt this man might still have a thing for me. I've received a couple of butt texts recently from this man. And two phone calls that I never answered. On one of the calls, he apparently had no idea he had butt dialed me, and a voice message indicated that. The other call was just a hang up (I assumed another butt dial.
And his second reason was that he's blocked two of his exes because they had been reaching out to him, sending him messages, clearly wanting to get with him. These two women are ones he lied to me about, and basically led me to believe one was only ever a friend, and the other he told me they were completely broken up with when him and I started dating (they weren't...they were taking a break). After learning of his ONS, and ALL the lies, 7 months later, he blocked these two. He feels I should block my exes now, because it's only fair.
Here's the thing... I have this ex in my phone because we still have a few things to exchange. It's been a long drawn out process, but there is finally an end in sight. When I left that man almost three years ago, I didn't feel safe getting my family's things from our joint home. So I only got things when I had someone to go with me. I have 5 kids, so this took a long time. Between the two of us, there were 7 kids and a very large house to divide. I just got the rest of my children's posessions this past summer. And now we are working on exchanging the photos and videos we each have, of the others children, on our personal computers. I've kept his info so I can send a text and say when I'm done, and I don't want to block his in case he sends a text having completed his end. There is NO conversation EVER between the two of us, and if he passed away tomorrow, the world is a better place. He's made this difficult, and I want it over. But I'm not going to block his number before I get the thousands of pictures he has of my children. We aren't fighting. In fact, he's recently married (which is why I think I'm finally getting the rest of my things back).
I've NEVER cheated on my WBF, never misled him, and have been beyond decent in all of this. But I have to say, I'm getting fed up. I feel like he's applying certain resrictions on me, that should apply to a wayward. I've always been an open book, so he can see whatever he wants to. BUT, I don't want to pay any more consequences for HIS actions. And I will not be treated like I'm the one who cheated and lie.
Also, he has yet to block the woman he had a ONS with. And the only reason he blocked these other 2, is because it's now free on ios7. He has one more issue to clear up, with a friend of his, regarding the man's wife. Yet... he hasn't.
I have no other exes numbers, with the exception of my XH, who I have the five children with. I am a SAHM, and my WBF has made comments, when I question what he does at work all day, about how I could cheat all day long and he'd never know about it.
I'm getting tired of this, and beginning to wonder if this is what I want for my life...This isnt R, it's more like a sentence.
[This message edited by TrulySad at 7:55 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)]