My WS had an EA that lasted about a year that eventually escalated into a PA. I discovered the PA 2 weeks after it started, and it took WS another few weeks to break it off with the OW. Unfortunately, we are in a position where we can't sell our house and can't afford for him to switch jobs. The OW was a coworker, and while they now work on different floors and different shifts (nurses at a hospital), there is still a chance they run into each other. Though WS did promise NC and has promised to avoid the OW's floor at all costs. Additionally, all their sexual encounters occurred at the OW"s apartment which I drive by daily. After the affair fog lifted WS realized that he almost lost everything and we've been trying to reconcile.
The past few months had been going well. I was feeling better and letting go. Then, 2 weeks ago WS went in to work and came home in a bad mood (he works one week on, one week off). That entire week he was in a bad mood and would get angry about trivial things. I asked what was up, but he had no answers. He's been distant and easily angered since then. This has triggered me as I am reminded of how things were during the EA and PA. Essentially, I find myself pushing away, wanting nothing to do with him. I feel a wedge between us--something is off but he says he's just tired (he works 3rd shift, the OW works the same week, but works 2nd shift on a different floor). Is the affair recovery honeymoon over? Has the OW made contact with him again? Ug! I've tried talking to him about it but he just says he's tired from work, and that people get mad at each other. Unfortunately, when he gets angry my mind wanders towards negative thoughts about what is going on = trigger.
Meanwhile, I find myself avoiding him and pushing away, which isn't good for reconciling or our 3 kids. Ug!