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so as wh works two jobs and is doing his masters he's really exhausted. I logged into his facebook to try and give away a shift and maybe it's because I'm a naturally suspicious person but I noticed someone's name wasn't in the blue link thing.

so I tried searching this person on facebook. nothing. went to one of his friend's facebooks (mutual) and looked at the friends list... nothing

searched in the messages for her name and it came up with nothing bad in terms of content but comes up with "facebook user"

so then I logged into my account and had a search and couldn't find her either (though that could be a security thing, you can't search me either).

now i've never met her but he's not mentioned her recently...

It could be a security thing. You could have a friend try to look them up too just to test that theory.

Don't want to get your hopes down, but this happened recently and I had a friend get so excited she called long distance.

What they're doing in the instance of XPervert is taking the A underground publicly and making new "secret" pages. They even defriended each other and some friends of mine got very excited...well, the same week he told me he got a house with the person, so my gut wasn't wrong.

One thing that was hard at first but really helped me was to not even go to the site anymore. I don't want to be "connected" to things they do or chance spying on me and I feel much better for it. It became a very anxious thing for me and I was constantly looking after them...now I'm free of it, though they are in my mind during times of high stress or lack of sleep.

I hope it's really all done for your sake, but people do all kinds of sneaky things with those SNs. (social networks), I'm sorry to say.

It also could be that this person closed their FB account. If you want to PM me the name I can look her up for you to be sure.

I'm leaning towards the person may have closed their account.
I hope so...

Check your PMs

Okay everybody seems to be a false alarm

OLC (because I don't feel right calling her, her user name and OC doesn't seem right on this forum)

and I have both figured it's really highly likely she just deleted her Facebook. So thankyou OLC!

ahhh the lovely aftermath of infidelity lol

You can't really delete it...you just deactivate it.

Next time she logs it, it will automatically re-active. It is a common tactic for some.