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User Topic: I am pregnant...... :(
topperoff22
♀ 40762
Member # 40762
What?  Posted: 10:20 AM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I took a test last night and this morning. It is positive. No one else knows except WH.

I have no idea how I feel about this. The last five days have been great -- serious, real progress...I kid you not.

But I still feel the timing is so off. I go to the doctor Friday to confirm. The test showed positive in less than a minute...three times....I'm making him get a different brand today.

Like I said, I have no idea what to feel.....


BS - Me 36
WS - Him 35 (almost 36)
Child: son, 6; just learned one on way
DDAY - July 24, 2013 (thousands spent on ex girlfriend)
DDAY2 -Aug. 3, 2013 (proof he slept with her)
R is slow going after TT for 1 month

Posts: 316 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: US
iwillNOT
♀ 40605
Member # 40605
Default  Posted: 10:28 AM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((topperoff22)))

I have not been in your shoes but I see postings from others who have; they have made it through and so can you. I am sending you lots of positive thoughts.

Now is the time to take care of yourself more than ever (((hugs)))


Me: BS, 43
Him: WH, 44
Together 21 years
Married 14 years
Kiddos 2,6,8,10
Dday#1 2004, 3 years after EA/PA co-worker MOW
Dday#2 8-6-13, 13 months EA/9months PA with co-worker MOW - caught not confessed
Rugsweep now, pay later. Ask me how I know.

Posts: 513 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Midwest
topperoff22
♀ 40762
Member # 40762
Default  Posted: 10:44 AM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Our town is so dang small....he said we should just go to the doctor and not get another test or everyone will be talking and gossiping. He already ran into three people he knew at the local Wally World when he picked up the one last night. Um...they're probably already doing it anyhow.However, in this town, they can talk all they want while they push their own skeletons back in their closet.


BS - Me 36
WS - Him 35 (almost 36)
Child: son, 6; just learned one on way
DDAY - July 24, 2013 (thousands spent on ex girlfriend)
DDAY2 -Aug. 3, 2013 (proof he slept with her)
R is slow going after TT for 1 month

Posts: 316 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: US
nowiknow23
♀ 33226
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 10:47 AM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((topperoff22)))) Take it as it comes, honey.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


Posts: 26132 | Registered: Aug 2011
SpiderGrl
♀ 40157
Member # 40157
Default  Posted: 11:01 AM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh Topper. I found out I was pregnant about 6 weeks after DDay. I am due in April. I don't know exactly how you feel but I'm betting we have some very similar feelings. If you want to talk, I'm here.

ETA: big big big hugs.

[This message edited by SpiderGrl at 11:01 AM, October 16th (Wednesday)]


Me 36- BW
Him 37- WH 6 month EA pushing PA.
DDAY- 7/2/13
Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will. -Gandhi
Pls forgive weird sentences and spelling mistakes, I post from my phone and autocorrect hates me.

Posts: 101 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: US
tushnurse
♀ 21101
Member # 21101
Default  Posted: 11:49 AM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Quit wasting money on tests. When they are negative is when you need to worry, when they are positive wether you peed on it, or stuck it in your ear, and it reads positive it is 99.9% (not a real stat) accurate.

Now take it as it comes, is great advice. Deep breath, obviously this is very early. Chalk it up to everything happening for a reason. Make sure you are taking care of you. Get some vitamins, and folic acid. Make a dr appt, and another deep breath.

((((and strength))))


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8786 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
Beemer
♀ 38499
Member # 38499
Default  Posted: 12:03 PM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Topper - there are so many similarities in our stories - I know I haven't reached out to you yet but I've been thinking about it for a while... my husband had an affair with an old GF too - so I know how difficult it is...

I also became pregnant about 6 months after d-day - I'm expecting our newest addition any day now... things have been tough but I can honestly say they are great right now, I'm truly thrilled to be welcoming a second son with my husband and he is now a changed man... hang in there sister - it gets better


BW - Me (33)
FWH - Him (34)
Married - 8years
D-Day - 06/06/12
Status - Trying...things are good :)

Posts: 77 | Registered: Feb 2013
Kalliopeia
♀ 35053
Member # 35053
Default  Posted: 12:17 PM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

why are you people getting pregnant under these horrible conditions?

You are responsible adults. Stop having unprotected sex if you are not trying to get pregnant.

My WW ex fiances EX WIFE deliberately got pregnant when he cheated on me with her.

Now we have an OC.

She did it on purpose to try and make another respnsibility that he wasn't supposed to be able to walk away from.

Well guess what. He walked away. And every time he tries to see his kids, she demands EXTRA money or she dicks him around on visitation so much trying to manipulate him back into a relationship with her, that he truely has said fuck it and right now is debating taking her to court over her abuse of the custody arrangements.

And she was crying to ME that she thought getting pregnant would make everything BETTER.


Posts: 478 | Registered: Mar 2012
blakesteele
♂ 38044
Member # 38044
Default  Posted: 12:22 PM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have wanted another baby...for a couple of years (1 year before my DD and 1 year since). About a month ago my wife and I discussed it to conclusion. We decided it is not for us....wife would be close to high risk due to age, we are not "zipping through" R, and are worried my wife's past A is one of my motivators.

Having said all of that....I would welcome the gift of a child into our family.

Keep posting! I am including you on my specific SI members prayer list now!!!!

Peace be with you.

[This message edited by blakesteele at 12:30 PM, October 16th (Wednesday)]


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 4041 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
SpiderGrl
♀ 40157
Member # 40157
Default  Posted: 12:30 PM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

why are you people getting pregnant under these horrible conditions?

I have 2 words for you: Suck it! Not that it is ANY business of yours but *I* took plan B within HOURS of our situation to try to avoid getting pregnant and it didn't work. I chalk this up to something that was meant to be. And NEWSFLASH, it makes it all more difficult. I'm not excited to be pregnant but I already love this baby. AND my wh was wayyyyy more stand up about it than I was. He has bent over backward to let me know that he is in it for as long as I let him be ad he is looking forward to meeting our baby.

Topper - again, HUGE hugs. It will all be awesomely ok. It may just take awhile.


Me 36- BW
Him 37- WH 6 month EA pushing PA.
DDAY- 7/2/13
Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will. -Gandhi
Pls forgive weird sentences and spelling mistakes, I post from my phone and autocorrect hates me.

Posts: 101 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: US
Hrtbrken1
♀ 33802
Member # 33802
Default  Posted: 12:33 PM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Take a deep breath. Just keep breathing. I also became pregnant not long after DDay. She is a blessing, but at the time I was just numb. FWH has been so wonderful, he sees her as a second chance to be a great dad.

why are you people getting pregnant under these horrible conditions?

Ummmmm, the usual way. HB is a wonderful thing.


Me-BW
Him-WH
Together 16 years, married 10.
DDay 07/26/2011, 8 month EA/PA with friend of our family. Months of TT.
DDay#2 Early spring 2012, confirmed EA with another woman.

Posts: 144 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: Sunny South
Hrtbrken1
♀ 33802
Member # 33802
Default  Posted: 12:36 PM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, and Kalliopeia, that was one of the more cruel things I read and I'm over 2 years out.


Me-BW
Him-WH
Together 16 years, married 10.
DDay 07/26/2011, 8 month EA/PA with friend of our family. Months of TT.
DDay#2 Early spring 2012, confirmed EA with another woman.

Posts: 144 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: Sunny South
SpiderGrl
♀ 40157
Member # 40157
Default  Posted: 12:43 PM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ummmmm, the usual way. HB is a wonderful thing.

This made me laugh and I needed it. Damn, straight.


Me 36- BW
Him 37- WH 6 month EA pushing PA.
DDAY- 7/2/13
Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will. -Gandhi
Pls forgive weird sentences and spelling mistakes, I post from my phone and autocorrect hates me.

Posts: 101 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: US
Skan
♀ 35812
Member # 35812
Default  Posted: 12:58 PM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations. As stressful as it is likely to be, a wanted baby is a blessing. (((hugs)))


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 5072 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
topperoff22
♀ 40762
Member # 40762
Default  Posted: 1:00 PM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

why are you people getting pregnant under these horrible conditions

I love it. I am "you" people. After looking at your drama I don't see that you have a stone to throw.

It's called sex and it happened A LOT in the last two months. Not every day has sucked and sometimes we just realized...damn..I'm still attracted to you, despite all of this.

My WH has had setbacks, he's blundered pretty bad while trying to repair this marriage, but he is really trying. I am not a "you people" -- just a people.


BS - Me 36
WS - Him 35 (almost 36)
Child: son, 6; just learned one on way
DDAY - July 24, 2013 (thousands spent on ex girlfriend)
DDAY2 -Aug. 3, 2013 (proof he slept with her)
R is slow going after TT for 1 month

Posts: 316 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: US
topperoff22
♀ 40762
Member # 40762
Default  Posted: 1:01 PM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Keep posting! I am including you on my specific SI members prayer list now!!!!

Thank you! Prayers are welcomed. God has a plan -- wish I understood it more but I know he is holding on to me through all of this.


BS - Me 36
WS - Him 35 (almost 36)
Child: son, 6; just learned one on way
DDAY - July 24, 2013 (thousands spent on ex girlfriend)
DDAY2 -Aug. 3, 2013 (proof he slept with her)
R is slow going after TT for 1 month

Posts: 316 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: US
topperoff22
♀ 40762
Member # 40762
Default  Posted: 1:02 PM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Quit wasting money on tests. When they are negative is when you need to worry, when they are positive wether you peed on it, or stuck it in your ear, and it reads positive it is 99.9% (not a real stat) accurate.

LOL. This is what I told my husband.


BS - Me 36
WS - Him 35 (almost 36)
Child: son, 6; just learned one on way
DDAY - July 24, 2013 (thousands spent on ex girlfriend)
DDAY2 -Aug. 3, 2013 (proof he slept with her)
R is slow going after TT for 1 month

Posts: 316 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: US
topperoff22
♀ 40762
Member # 40762
Default  Posted: 1:03 PM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Topper - there are so many similarities in our stories - I know I haven't reached out to you yet but I've been thinking about it for a while... my husband had an affair with an old GF too - so I know how difficult it is...
I also became pregnant about 6 months after d-day - I'm expecting our newest addition any day now... things have been tough but I can honestly say they are great right now, I'm truly thrilled to be welcoming a second son with my husband and he is now a changed man... hang in there sister - it gets better

This was so encouraging! Thank you so much! anytime you want to chat please PM me. I bet we have some more similarities!


BS - Me 36
WS - Him 35 (almost 36)
Child: son, 6; just learned one on way
DDAY - July 24, 2013 (thousands spent on ex girlfriend)
DDAY2 -Aug. 3, 2013 (proof he slept with her)
R is slow going after TT for 1 month

Posts: 316 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: US
topperoff22
♀ 40762
Member # 40762
Default  Posted: 1:04 PM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have not been in your shoes but I see postings from others who have; they have made it through and so can you. I am sending you lots of positive thoughts.

Thank you!


BS - Me 36
WS - Him 35 (almost 36)
Child: son, 6; just learned one on way
DDAY - July 24, 2013 (thousands spent on ex girlfriend)
DDAY2 -Aug. 3, 2013 (proof he slept with her)
R is slow going after TT for 1 month

Posts: 316 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: US
topperoff22
♀ 40762
Member # 40762
Default  Posted: 1:05 PM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Topper - again, HUGE hugs. It will all be awesomely ok. It may just take awhile

Thank you!


BS - Me 36
WS - Him 35 (almost 36)
Child: son, 6; just learned one on way
DDAY - July 24, 2013 (thousands spent on ex girlfriend)
DDAY2 -Aug. 3, 2013 (proof he slept with her)
R is slow going after TT for 1 month

Posts: 316 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: US
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