Although DDay was fairly recent, we are trying reconciliation...for me this means I have not yet decided to move out or file for divorce. I am looking to see him working and making changes (and verifying everything) and trying to assess if I can ever trust and be happy enough to stay.
We are in MC and he's in IC. He's answered questions, I have full access to all accounts and electronics (that I know of). I am confident there's been no contact with OW.
I am making a list of my expectations- MC, IC, access to accounts, pro-active communication from him re: whereabouts, events of day, triggers. Is there anything else that has been useful to others I haven't thought of?
As well for the no contact, he has a business associate that I found inappropriate emails to years ago (babe, miss you). He insists, still, nothing happened. She's older, and he insists he flirted and said those things to use/manipulate her to benefit his business--no doubt shes impacted its growth.
I have not heard or seen anything offside since. Should I include her in the no contact? Even if nothing physical happened (which i am not convinced of, but don't believe I'll get an answer). I feel contact with her of any sort could be detrimental to his recovery and our reconciliation. Should I make him give me a list of every person he's texted over the years so I can verify? Or is making him rethink a bad idea? I have asked many times if there's any contacts in his phone, Facebook, etc that he was inappropriate with and he says they are now deleted.