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User Topic: What should I do?
♂ 38348
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Default  Posted: 4:35 PM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Normally, Heart is fairly talkative, especially when she gets angry and wants to hash out something on her mind. Lately, she hasn't been very talkative at all. I realize we are approaching 1st Anti-versary, and I expect the roller coaster to be in full swing again. Thus, when she gets quiet and reserved, I start getting EXTREMELY worried/anxious.

How can I either prevent my own anxiety or encourage conversation politely so as not to offend? Or is this even the right question to ask?

Me: WS 34
Her: BS 37 (HeartInADustpan)
DS: 7yo
M: 9 years
DDays: 2012/11/14-2013/02/05, 2013/03/09, 2016/02/19

Posts: 824 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: St. Louis
♀ 40963
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Default  Posted: 4:40 PM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She is probably just dealing with her emotions. I don't think you can or should make her talk before she is ready. But maybe you could just encourage her with kind gestures. Do some extra chores, rent a movie she would like and cuddle up. Express that you are available anytime to talk. Show her that you are thinking about what SHE needs, this time around.

Posts: 118 | Registered: Oct 2013
♂ 30369
Member # 30369
Default  Posted: 5:06 PM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree with breakingpoint. Gently let her know that you are there for her at any time.

Maybe you can tell her that you noticed she is more quiet than usual, and ask what is on her mind, and if it has anything to do with the upcoming antiversary?

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