"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks
Thanks for the words. He definitely has relationship issues, though it seems that with everything I DO know, no one has ever had the faith and love for him to stick with him through tough times and help him work it out (He was in the military and travels a lot so I think all the exes had enough). He and I have talked about that fact that he has a lot of internal issues to overcome. But I also let him know that I will support him and help him work, so long as he is still working.
If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice.
The axe "forgets"- the tree remembers.
Divorced and super good with that
Me- FBS 42
Him- EX!! 38
2 DS- 15 and 16
DDay 1- 07-24-2013
Thanks for the warning. I have to check myself sometimes because I know that I cannot "save" him. I have gotten myself to a point that I don't want to "save" him, because it my mind, that almost means that he stays the way he is. Rather, I try to look at it as "supporting" him to take the steps he needs and being there for him as he takes them.
Since you were the one with the wall, can you offer any suggestions on what I or he can do in order to maybe start to break them down? What worked for you? I know that IC is a suggestion, but outside of that, anything we can do on the homefront? Any clues about how I can continue to support him dealing with his demons and knowing that he can open up to me?
Talking through our issues with complete honesty after the A made me realize that if i was demanding honesty from him, he deserved it from me.
Let me PM you later on when I have some time to compose. Okay? Off to a soccer practice but I will write more to you later.