So Confused, Hurt, Humiliated...
I haven't posted in a while. I have been mostly trolling every day reading the heartbreaking stories of each and everyone's experiences.
My story in a nutshell: SO left email open, I saw the damning emails, he denied denied denied, I dug dug dug, confrontation, "yes I did meet her and get a BJ", I dug dug dug, he admits he has a problem...12 steps later...
So- my post today is I need a dose of some reality...
Things for he and I are great. Sound weird? He immediately went to IC, and a CSAT (is that right??), he joined a 12 step group, and we both have found our faith (after LONG absences for each of us, that's another story).
He is completely transparent, remorseful, apologetic.
We communicate about everything. He is attentive, kind, thoughtful, romantic, intimate...(he was this way before DDay as well, but ever more so now).
I am happy we are working so hard on our reconciliation.
Am I living in a fantasy world??
No- we haven't approached full disclosure--we are going to do that in front of our couples counselor in the near future.
I am in IC as well, and I am attending my own 12 step "anon" group.
I just want to know- has there been stories like mine on this site? Can couples get through this like we are?
I'm hopeful, optimistic, apprehensive-- but I am also happy...happy that I am able to look beyond the SA of my SO, and instead see the amazing man that is emerging.
Have a great Thursday everyone!
DDay #1 06/23/13
DDay #2 08/05/2013
DDay #5 02/08/14
DDay #3 08/12/13
DDay #4 08/13/13
...you get the idea
Married Sept 14 2015
Fully in R
But, do the questions EVER end??