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chikastuff
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Default  Posted: 1:02 PM, October 17th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Last week's state enforced child support payment is MIA...the only thing (and please correct me if I'm wrong) that I can think of is that the Muppet King lost his job...again.

*sigh*

I wonder how long it's going to be until I get the official word from him. So far he's acting clueless. COBRA information for our son (in addition to his share of our monthly tax payment and daycare) would be nice as well.


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Happily engaged and moving on

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wifehad5
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Default  Posted: 4:45 PM, October 17th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


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Ashland13
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Default  Posted: 7:52 PM, October 17th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

FWIW, there are other reasons that CS payments are late or shorted.

I thought that XPerv lost his job when this started again and you know what? What I was to learn is that he secured himself a house with OW and has bills to pay there, so he pays there first instead of where he should.

In some ways, the job loss was better.

I hope things improve soon.


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chikastuff
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Default  Posted: 9:52 AM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wish it were just him prioritizing other bills before this. However his wages are garnished by our state child enforcement agency. I don't get a check directly from XH. No payment means administrative issue-which would be fixed before now-or he's no longer employed there.


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Posts: 382 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: New England
sunsetslost
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Default  Posted: 10:01 AM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hang in there chika. Just another hurdle to clear.


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neverdidithink
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Default  Posted: 10:59 AM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

chikastuff, I too have state-enforced CS. (MA) Some weeks I get a correct deposit, some weeks I get nothing, some weeks I get a partial payment and some weeks I get a makeup amount.

I have no idea why this happens since the same amount is supposed to be deducted from his check/deposited to me, but it's rare that I see the correct amount.

Your X may have lost his job, but it could just be a wonky thing like mine.

[This message edited by neverdidithink at 11:18 AM, October 18th (Friday)]


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Him: WH 55
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chikastuff
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Default  Posted: 11:21 AM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

NeverDidThink-
That's interesting, my CS goes through MA as well. This is the first time I've ever had something wonky like this happen. Do you typically follow up with CSE or do you just wait and see?


Me- 32
Happily engaged and moving on

Posts: 382 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: New England
neverdidithink
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Default  Posted: 11:32 AM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I usually just ride it out.

It's not enough money to make a difference in my week to week budget so I just figure I'll see it when I see it.

Don't be afraid to call DOR if you have questions or concerns, they're really great about answering and helping out.


Me: BW 52
Him: WH 55
Married 8 years
4 20-something his and hers kids

Trying to understand the behavior of some people is like trying to smell the color 9


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