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stillsad1970 posted 10/17/2013 14:10 PM

After 6 1/2 months since d day and in R with wh, why am I just now having major panic attacks an feeling completely insecure? The insecurity thing is NOT me. WH still works with OW but I've been told by WH and best friend who works with them both, not to be concerned, I do believe them. So why now? I thought I had this thing licked.

eachdayisvictory posted 10/17/2013 14:19 PM

I felt exactly like this many times. When you have those feelings, talk about them here and with your spouse, and don't worry too much. It is very common from what I read and have felt. Apparently these waves can last for years. The difference for me now compared to the earliest days is that I'm not scared to lay it all out for my H. When I get those panick attacks, I tell him about them, we work them out together, and we give ourselves time.

You are not alone.

stillsad1970 posted 10/17/2013 14:23 PM

The "you are not alone" just made me cry. Thank you. I needed that.

Skan posted 10/17/2013 14:32 PM

I am 14 months past DDay and I triggered so hard yesterday that I had a panic attack, and mind movies that were overwhelming. I was walking around the house in a daze, holding myself and watching movies right behind my open eyes. It happens. (((hugs)))

eachdayisvictory posted 10/17/2013 14:39 PM

well, now I cried feeling the support and getting to support someone.

Sending you extra hugs stillsad.

SorrowBhindSmile posted 10/18/2013 09:57 AM

i'm 10 months out and they still happen to me on occasion. You are not alone here!!

The OW lives down the street from me. So i see her car, house...HER. all. the. time.

your WH works with OW. You may not see her, but your WH does.....the proximity is there.

When you feel it coming on...face it head on. Talk to your WH. Ask for reassurance. Call him at work just to say "hi". Make plans to meet him for lunch. Chat or text him. Tell him you are feeling down and why and get the boost you need to feel reassured.

Another thing i did was to have my WH text me a picture. When i started feeling wonkey I'd text him "need a pix". he'd have 60 seconds to stop what he was doing and text me a pix back. Didn't matter if he was in a meeting, at lunch with co-workers, whatever.....he stopped what he was doing and sent the pix.

hugs to you!!

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