I joked to someone that WH got the dog in lieu of having another baby to save our failing marriage -- that was a joke, and R is actually going quite well. But the emotional strain of this is just AWFUL. My heart HURTS. I'm sure it's all a ball of wax and some of the A feelings are wrapped up in it, and I'm sure that WH feels like he fucked up again. Regardless... I'm going to miss her. It's awful how quickly we attach to animals.
The people you do your life with shape the life you live
but you're right... you don't want an aggressive, unpredictable dog around kids.
"The dark does not destroy the light; it defines it." - Brene Brown
I am so sorry hon!
Find that good family dog that is out there waiting for you, and looking to love you and your family. (((hugs)))
D-Day, June 10, 2012
I'm really sorry this didn't work out for you...but it sounds like it wasn't a good fit for anyone, including the dog, so you're doing the right thing by bringing her back to the rescue group.
I know it hurts and I'm so sorry. I hope you can find just the right one that will bring you and your family years of joy.
Take a deep breath, give her a cookie and a kiss...she will be loved again
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
We had a dalmation that we got because we were grieving the loss of another dog, DUMB move. Anyway this dog was a behavior problem from the word go. We did anything you could think of to train him. We eventually had him to a point where he was well behaved, and he was bout 3.5 years old.
We had our first child, and he did a few goofy things when he came along, things that were concerning, jumped on the couch and stood over him as a newborn, growled at my H when he was trying to quiet the neverending crying (bad baby).
Then he signed his own death sentence, he went through the invisible fence, and bit a neighbor kid that was a teen, she walked by our house at the same time every day to pick up her sister, and she loved animals, they had 3 or 4 dogs at her house. He bit her hard on her rear, broke through her jeans, busted the skin the whole nine yards. We of course provided proof for the family that he was up to date on vaccinations, bought her a new pair of expensive jeans, and I the nurse took care of her wound.
I could not, and would not keep a dog like that around with small kids. I had two young nieces, and my infant son. I no longer trusted him, and felt it was unsafe to rehome him with anyone else.
It was horrible and heartbreaking. It was the right thing to do however because he was ok one second then would just flip there was no way to retrain, or work through his schizophrenia, and that is what is was. He was mentally unstable from day one. He had a great happy life the time he was with us, and that is something that gives me peace.
I feel your pain, but you would never ever forgive yourself if this dog hurt any of your kids, of friends of kids.