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SeanFLA posted 10/18/2013 16:05 PM

ExWW has an iPad my son pretty much uses almost exclusively now. In fact he brings it over to my place to use for the Internet, fishing pictures, light homework and games. But being a knowledgeable parent I take a look at it and his phone once a while to check up on things. After all he's 14 and I have every right in the world to look at these things to make sure he's staying out of trouble. He's not allowed to password protect anything.

Anyhow I look at the pictures on it and there's a bunch from fishing and vacations. Then I scroll back and there it is...from the month I moved out (date stamped thanks to the new ios7) a pic of exWw half naked in the bathroom she took with the ipad camara showing off her ass. To who and why I have no idea. I'm furious because it's on the iPad my son uses! I've seen him show his friends videos on it and everything. Not to mention it really hurt knowing she kept doing whatever she was doing in the mist of her marriage ending and her son hurting as I left. I did find her sending pics in emails to her AP when I discovered the A.

Anyhow I'm trying to decide what to do now. I'm sure my son has seen it. Thinking I need to send him home with his iPad and a sealed note to her asking her to "take off the half naked pics of yourself because my son may see them." I need to leave the picture on there so she doesn't think I'm lying or something, I'm just astonished, shocked and hurt once again at this because it involves my son. Don't people ever learn?

[This message edited by SeanFLA at 4:07 PM, October 18th (Friday)]

Nature_Girl posted 10/18/2013 16:24 PM

I'd show it to my lawyer.

dmari posted 10/18/2013 16:27 PM

Ewwww. God I hope your son didn't see that picture. There isn't enough brain bleach to erase that!

SeanFLA posted 10/18/2013 16:27 PM

I've been divorced for quite a while. The lawyers are done. She's a single woman now. She can slut around anyway she wants...as long as it doesn't hurt my son.

Nature_Girl posted 10/18/2013 16:51 PM

Well, I think nekkid pictures of your mom's ass on your iPad is hurtful. It's also against the law, even in the liberal state I live in, to expose your minor child to pornography.

Abbondad posted 10/18/2013 17:05 PM

Sean,

I am so sorry your son had to be exposed to this disturbing shit. If you followed my thread, this was very similar to what pushed me over the edge and made me finally file:

My son (nine!)found a naked pic of his mother that she'd texted to her POS--along with her POS's leering adolescent reply.

My DS was so disturbed by this he witheld this information from me for over a week because he thought I would kill myself. He also expressed that he thought of killing himself.

That would have been bad enough; what was worse was my WW's response, which was essentially a big "So what? He shouldn't have looked at my phone." I told her he spoke of suicide, and what was her reply? "He is being manipulative." NINE YEARS OLD.

No responsibility, no self-disgust, and of course no apology to me or to her young child.

It was despicable and disgusting. My son will always carry this image and know what his mother is.

My WW had moved out by that point. These people are deplorable, Sean. I also have in my possession tons of nude pics my WW sent to her POS while we were supposedly in reconciliation. (Downloaded from her Iphone.)

This is who they are: remorseless, shallow, entitled, and selfish people. Thank god we came to our senses and will be rid of them. Unfortunately our children, whom they have scarred, won't be for a long time.

Again, so sorry. We chose wrong.

Thefly559 posted 10/18/2013 17:43 PM

Dam , they are crazy. Sorry brother. My stbxww did similar with sex toys left out in the bedroom. That weren't even ours. So I kinda understand , and it sucks . You are a good father. Better than she could ever be a mother.

Gemini71 posted 10/18/2013 18:07 PM

Maybe I'm vindictive, but if I were in that situation, I would call DCFS on my husband, after documenting the hell out of the iPad NOT being mine!! Her negligence is a form of child abuse, and I would NOT stand for it!

SBB posted 10/18/2013 19:28 PM

Her negligence is a form of child abuse, and I would NOT stand for it!

I'd take it to the cops. Nothing will come of it but it could make her more careful in future.

Yuck. I can't imagine what a mind-fuck it would be to see a parent like that at any age, let alone 14.

realitybites posted 10/18/2013 19:39 PM

If you have a way to delete it....do it.

Don't give a shit if she is happy or not that you "fooled around" on her IPAD. Just do it.

Kajem posted 10/18/2013 20:28 PM

I'd erase it. At this point in time, contacting her to remove it is useless. She may have left it as a way to hurt you, expecting you to find it long before now. IF your son hasn't seen it, the longer it stays on the iPad the longer you risk him finding it-that's not something I would leave to chance.

I don't expect my XH to be a responsible parent, a responsible parent would have reviewed and deleted things that could hurt the kid BEFORE giving the kid exclusive use of any electronic devices. NOT something my XH would do. I pick up his messes a lot when it comes to my kids. I feel it's the right thing to do.