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shortee126 (original poster member #35803) posted at 3:15 AM on Saturday, October 19th, 2013
Just wondering if this is a normal feeling for all of you in R. Do you feel that there is always going to be something (the affair) always between you. I am not sure that I can grasp the concept of this not being something that will forever be between us. We are a year in and I am wondering if this thing is always going to be a "thing" that will separate us in some way. I am working on forgiveness and I know that I am not totally there.
BS- 37
WS-37
married 13 years together 19
DD- 5/27/12
He walked out on me and the girls 5/26/12
Recovery started 9/15/12
Hoping for Serenity, Courage, and Wisdom!!!!
Gipper ( member #32232) posted at 3:48 AM on Saturday, October 19th, 2013
3 years out and it is still there for me. I have forgiven and ok in that regard. It doesn't occupy my entire waking hours as it did in the early days, and I don't often specifically think of it, but it is there.
Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 4:14 AM on Saturday, October 19th, 2013
I'm not sure that it ever goes away, but it transitions from a gaping wound to a scar, and scars become a part of us. They're subtle reminders of where we've been, but they don't affect our day-to-day as much as the years pass.
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
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